Sometimes I leave my girlfriend on IM without telling her I'm leaving... what do you think?

So you'd just leave her at her computer while you go and work out at the gym, and she never realised? How is that possible? Unless it's just she wants to know that you're home at that particular moment in time, in which case, she sounds like she has some insecurity issues. Like she doesn't trust you. Have you tried talking to her, to find out why she always wants you to stay home and talk to her? Because honestly, she needs to gain some independence, and you need to stand up for yourself. I'm not trying to sound like a bitch or anything, but if my guy wanted to go to the gym, camping with friends, whatever, I, quite honestly, would "Bye hun, have fun." Just like if I wanted to do the same, I'd say "See ya in a while."

Talk to her, find out why she wants you to stay home all the time, and explain to her that you're faithful to her and you're not going to stray from your relationship. It really sounds like she has some insecurities about this relationship and you need to find out what they are and deal with them now.

Wow! I think that you two really need to talk. Let her know that you have a life and other
interests, but you are still into her. See if she needs encouragement to seek one for
herself. Maybe she wants to pursue something but is afraid(insecure)to do this. Tell
her that you don't like to leave her hanging, that you will try to help her with this.
Good luck!

um I would just day I'm going to the gym and ill talk to you in an hour. if she can't except that then I think there's a control issue in the relationship there dude.

Well first of all, it's definitely not bad that you don't want to tell her every little thing you do. That would just be ridiculous, and she shouldn't expect that. We all need time to ourselves.

I'm just wondering about when you leave her on IM. Does she notice? Does she say anything about it, like get upset or something?
And I would recommend just talking to her about it, letting her know you need time to yourself sometimes, nicely of course. Like if she's resisting when you want to leave, let her know that you'd love to talk to her later or something but right now you really want to go out. That way she'll know you care, you just need your space.
Hope that helps a bit :]

It's her own insecurity. If you're going to different schools it's a reality that she'll have to face. You're in different towns with different stuff going on. I wouldn't just LEAVE if you're in the middle of a conversation, but maybe say something like "In 10 minutes I'm going to the gym" and 10 minutes later say "Talk to you later on tonight", then leave.

On the other hand, maybe she isn't really being resistant? Maybe she's just like "oh babbbyy, stay and talk to me. I'm more fun than the gym" and she knows you're going to go, she's just trying to be cute? Is that her personality? Maybe mention it to her while on the phone or in person. Say something like "Do you really get down and out when I have to go or are you just teasing". Maybe she doesn't realize it's annoying and makes her appear insecure?

That's all I can think of! Sorry I'm not more helpful :)

It is deceit. It is always better to face the problem, than avoid it. Let her know she is important to you but, she needs to let you be you, as well. When you go to the gym, etc. It benefits her and the relationship, so she needs to respect you and let you do it, without clinging or guilt trips.

You may want to prayerfully listen to her story and see if you can figure out where this insecurity comes from. Remember to affirm her, no matter what. Her feelings are hers and they need to be affirmed, even while helping her process them and learn she can trust you.