I have a question for you I hope you will be kind enough to help me out. See there is this guy I liked for the last 8 years but I didn`t learn that I am in like/love with him until recently.
See our friendship is complex. He has liked me since we where 16 (2002) he even tried to ask me out back then but, I was dating someone else at the time for about 2 years. We remained good friends but he too got seriously involved with a girl and we lost touch given high school was ending and the seriousness of our relationships with first loves. We both dated our S/Os till 2005. A 5 year relationship for me and A three year relationship for him We both broke up at that time ( march for me and aug for him) and began to talk again. Anyways, we kept in touch via phone and IMer because of the fact I had moved away to NYC for college thus I was 3 hours away from him.
He always has told me I beautiful and smart and kind And, He does try to see me for example my parents moved to Chicago when I was in college and he drove all the way out to see me spend time with me because I was bored. lol
We always were coupley when we saw each other but nothing sexual happened till recently.
This past June I went to see him and we did our typical coupleness hold hands, pay for each other get each other favorite drink, joke about going to Europe, and getting a house together anything typical couples would do in public. That night he asked me if wanted to sleep in his room with him and I was so happy that he asked of course I obliged. We kissed and cuddled fooled around a bit but did not have actual sex. everything but, lol I wasn`t ready being that this was all the new being with him sexually. but of course there are other things to relieve the tension :)
I guess the reason I am writing you is because I don`t know what to do about this he tells me that he loves me (he did that night) but, we aren't boyfriend or girlfriend yet, but, he wants to see me all the time Which is hard since I am in grad school getting ready for my PhD. in NYC and he`s 3 hours away
I am just confused by all of this we aren't together but we are beginning to act like we are. He tell me the only reason we aren't together is the distance but I have been brought up that love knows no bounds ( my father was in the military and gone for 8 months often when I was a child) Some facts - 1) we are 3 hours apart 2)he is still friends with my ex ( the 5 year relationship) not close but they hang. 3) when he told me he loved me I didn't say it back I just kissed him( I was nervous i`m never good with I love you) I did write him a letter via imer a day later confessing my feelings 4) He always makes an effort to see me when I go upstate and does come to see me in NYC 5) He tells me a lot lately he misses me 6) both of us have not had serious relationships since our breakups Are we in a relationship and I don`t know it ? Thanks for reading <3
If you are in grad school and you have not started your Ph.D. yet, then just finish your masters and don't jump to a Ph.D. so soon.
Tell him you want to be with him and that he is the one for you. Make it blatantly obvious that you are his. After he accepts (he will and you better act fast). Talk about relocating to be together. Maybe he can get a job in the city where you want to get your Ph.D. or you can move closer to him. Or you both could move to an entirely new city and get hopefully jobs there. Or in this new city (chose one with a university appealing to you) he could get a job and you can start your Ph.D.
The point is stop at a masters, put your Ph.D. on hold, then go to him (or he can come to you). Then you can resume your lives after you 2 are together.
Maybe he hasn't announced that he wants to go out with you because he's afraid of rejection because you did reject him once already. Maybe you should tell him how you really feel. Like you said, you are really good friends and he would understand if you told him how you felt.
My friend and I talk more but for a while 2 years, to be exact, we've been taking more than normal. He tells he has a girl friend, and ask me if I had...
View Answers
We have been friends for 5 years without this issue ever comin' up b4, well in the past couple of months we have been sleeping together. we are still...
View Answers
What pickup lines do you use to start a conversation with someone you are attracted to?
Depending on the setting: Start talking about something relevant to where we are, then ask about herself then talk about me a little bit, make a joke, then ask her to go somewhere like Starbucks. If all goes well perhaps ask her out on a date (If all goes reeeally well!!! - I'm a bit shy )
How do they typically respond?
50/50 sometimes good, sometimes bad. Although sometimes they think I'm just being friendly...how do I fix that...
Site Links
About GirlsAskGuys
GirlsAskGuys Widgets
Help Us Improve!
