Do you believe this quote?

I believe it. too. but there are circumstances where the person CAN change, and stop the cheating.

However, I believe that BOTH people in any new relationship, if someone's cheated before, need to set ground rules and watch each other so that IF situations come up that are familiar "triggers" to cheating, it needs to be recognized and stopped. It's like a former druggie. If they start hanging out with their old friends again, and going to the same places they used to when doing drugs, they need to stop and change the situation before it can lead to creating the same problem. Getting into the same habits can be dangerous, and it takes a vigilant effort from BOTH people to help each other. then I believe that things can change, IF the cheater is truly "repentant".

And as for a mistake. that's an enabling term in my opinion. It implies a little thing to me. Hey, we ALL make mistakes, right? So why not keep doing it? It was a mistake in the last relationship. a mistake in this one. ooopsie!

I said something I didn't mean. Mistake. I accidentally insulted someone when I had no intention of doing it. A mistake. I tripped. A mistake. I forgot to carry a 1. Mistake.

See, it implies that we're all not in control of what we say or do, which in some ways sounds a bit demeaning to the human race. That's why I personally hate the "It just happened" idea. How do you accidentally trip into a bed and end up having sex with people? I know that I haven't made that "mistake."

"I just punched someone in the face, repeatedly, by accident." Whooopsie. a "mistake". "I did drugs for 10 years." See? Technically, in textbook definitions yes, it's a mistake, but there are mistakes, and there are big errors in judgment, and there are times where you have to realize the seriousness and not attach little excuses and cutesy names by using words that demean what that person did.


You set out to make out with someone (some cheaters will say they didn't set out or mean to, so ok. you chose to ignore your conscience and make out or sleep with someone else because for whatever reason, you weren't happy.

Guess what? I wasn't always happy in my relationships, and I have yet to make the "mistake" of cheating. I've had a hell of a rough life, and it's never made me want to cheat, even in "retaliation." I've never done drugs, or gotten drunk or beaten somebody.

I'm not some animalistic creature who only thinks about my own temporary pleasure and feelings all the time. I think about consequences. I think about how others would feel. I don't just make out with random people because it fulfills some id-like impulse to "feel good." - I'm single. I COULD. but I think about if I SHOULD first.

Am I perfect? No. I'm in control of my impulses and body enough to realize that cheating, or taking drugs, or drinking enough to get alcohol poisoning is bad, and I will do what I can to not lead myself into a situation where I'd be tempted (not that I am) by those things.

Perhaps in the same relationship, yes. once a cheater always a cheater, because it's symptomatic of something wrong deeper down with the relationship.

But a cheater in every relationship? No, I won't grant that generalization.

my take on that is , if you were having a lot of problems and it got overwhelming and he cheated and regretted it and came clean and started working on the problem between you then its a One time Cheat. If he is always complaining and verbally abused you or emotionally ans you find out on your own and he never wanted to tell you then its a thing that will happen again , I know someone who went through this and it was a one time thing and after that he changed completely because he really repented.

I don't believe in this saying because I think we all can make a mistake and everyone deserve to have a second chance. If you have many relationship where guys keep cheating on you then there is something wrong with you. Something wrong with you mean you might be a controlling person, possessive or etc. whatever you do that would lead a guy to cheat on you. Or maybe you are just attract to these type of guys, that like to cheat. next time, Just have to choose the partner wisely and carefully.