so my fiance and I have different views on sex. he is the more open "let's get freaky type" who likes to watch porno and try new things. and I'm all into experimenting but I'm also way more modest than he is. in my mind, pornography can be like cheating because I feel like men watch it, then go and have wild fantasies about these women, constantly comparing their wife/girlfriend physically to the women in the films. so my question is: what really goes through a man's mind while he watches these films? is he comparing his girlfriend to the women in the movie or just enjoying the show? and, if I am being too insecure, how can I relax and be more open to his ideas? we both love each other very much so I would like to be able to come to a happy medium. please help!
I watch it for the show, but like its not like I think "Damn my girl can't do that. She's not good enough." Its more of just like damn, yeah that's hot. Never do I ever think of it as like cheating, or I rather screw that girl then my girlfriend.
He is your fiance, correct. I don't believe that any web-forum of any kind can answer your question as good as asking this man that you want to spend the rest of your life with.
You need to ask him about it, and don't stop asking until you get an answer. If you don't know something about him, than you need to straight up ask him before you tie the knot.
Well, I have asked and he says he doesn't know why he does it...once, when we first started dating I caught him and he said he needed something new. he isn't the most open person with his feelings so I'm not exactly sure what that means. I mean, he is a really great guy who would never cheat on me. and when he found out it bothers me he stopped watching it, even got rid of his movies. but now I feel like I need to work on it myself because it's obviously not a problem, just something he likes to do - 3 months ago
Personally, I have no problem at all with my boyfriend watching porn, or any of my boyfriends of the past. I watch it myself. I don't compare the people in the porn I watch to my boyfriend, it's just something different, something new to see. And I don't imagine it's much different for him. I would 100% rather him watch porn and get that desire for new things out of his system, then for it to build up into something that may actually become a problem.
Cheating involves physical contact, and even if he were to compare one of them to you, it's not cheating by any means. For instance, have you ever watched a movie and thought, "Wow, that guy is really hot," about someone in it. That guy on the screen is completely unobtainable, so you don't feel bad for thinking they are hot, and you shouldn't. It's basically the same thing only on a more naked level.
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