I have been with my boyfriend for about two months now and we had no problems at all. But out of nowhere today he asks me "why do you have so many things on your face" meaning (why do I have acne?) I don't have a lot. I have a little bit on the bottom of my cheek . and Believe me people I tried every product for my face. NOTHING works. So he said why don't you use Proactiv? I told him I don't have a credit card and nothing works on my stubborn face.
He offered to buy it for me and I said NO. Is he saying something to me? this is from my perspective what I think he is saying to me. "I don't want to be seen with you and your acne." Now that's what I assume he is thinking, but not telling me. oh and he says the reason he is saying that is because he cares. "YEAH RIGHT"
GUYSS a little help here please. Is he being a jerk or he cares about me?
boyfriend for about two months.yeah, he's being a jerk.
his intentions could be good like he says they are. his thinking could be ("It probably bothers her more than it bothers me") and he truly wanted to be helpful.
however, two months is not long enough to know how a person will react to that kind of statement, and problem. so because of his ignorance and lack of understanding about you as a person.
yeah, he's being a jerk (but possibly unintentionally)
Woh woh woh! First take a breather and see what he tried doing for you. He offered to buy you proactive! That is him showing you he cares how you look.
I'm sure he still thinks your beautiful, and I think he just wants to see you at your best.
I know acne can be a problem, and I know it is a pain when it won't go away. I have proactive, I still get acne. sooo w.e its your face you can't do much about it. I think you should take his offer up on that proactive, it may work for you! I have it, I just don't use it all the time. (I guess I'm a Lazy a$$) He isn't being a jerk, he just wants to see you look good and feel good about yourself. If you are fine with the way you look, tell him you are fine with it and tell him to get used to it.
But. It is always nice trying to improve on your looks. Feeling sexy feels awesome!
i think he's being a jerk! I mean seriously he liked you 2 months ago when you had acne.He should just learn to accept you as you are flaws and all. Nobody's perfect! You shouldn't have to change to make him happy, because you were just fine with your acne till he shoved it in your face. If he meant it in a nice way he has an odd way off showing it.
OK, I tried answering this once before. I had a really long answer, but my computer froze. So, I'm just going to get to the point I guess. Bottom line, I was in a VERY similar situation, I am now convinced he meant well by it. And chances are your boyfriend means well too. Don't be offended, he is probably trying to do something nice for you, something he thinks you really want.
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