This slightly younger girl, Kirsten, I like always gets upset whenever it gets back to her that I'm hanging out with another girl. Like real upset. The thing is I've asked Kirsten out twice, months in between. She said yes both times, and was really excited about hanging out with me, but then she avoids me and gets weird. I can tell she likes me too though, but is way too shy to admit it. It's sort of hard for her I'm sure, I'm older than her, and I guess "one of the guys" *Quarterback for Football etc.*, and she's not exactly ms popular in her grade. Whenever I saw her in class/hallway she'd get all fidgety, blush, twirl the hair, she also talks about me with her gf's. However, She always says she likes someone else (even if the kid is a joke) conveniently when I try to take it to the next level by asking her out. I initiate all our conversations, and I'm really nice to her. (it's confusing to me too, because she's a real sweetheart and so nice when she's being herself, but then she gets all crazy with me)
-What I really want to know if (girls) have you ever been mad at a guy for going after someone else, even after you pushed him away? Is there sort of denial that teenage girls go through, because they don't want to think its their own fault? Do her friends just tell her it's my fault? I don't want her to hate me, but I'm tired of her not opening up to me and hanging out with some other kid just to runaway from her feelings for me. Is it a good idea just to stop talking to her? whenever she acts like this it just hurts, so I don't give her nearly as much of my time and don't talk to her.
I am going to say what I said in your other question (I think it was you.)
Look, she is younger/less extroverted than you and obviously the fact that you are Mr.Popular and she is not one of the cool kids (even if you don't give a damn about it) does not make the situation less complicated.
I think she really likes you, but her shyness is really getting in her way. I used to be like this as a teenager as well. When I would really like a guy and get close to him, suddenly I would start acting weird and avoid him. Not because I do not like him. It was quite the opposite, actually. You don't want to seem a fool in his presence, don't do anything weird and stupid, but you usually do altough he is always so nice to you. I would have no problem talking to other people, so I guess it may seem like I am avoiding him because I don't like him.
Okay, this might not make sense to you, but what I am trying to say is that she feels insecure. You are really nice to her and then suddenly she hears about you hanging out with other girls and altough for you these girls are only platonic friends, she might ask herself if your interest in her is really genuine. Therefore she builds up this wall around her.
Yup that sounds about right... I most definately agree... - 5 months ago
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It sounds like she's very nervous and this is interfering with her going out with you. I have pushed away a guy I (really) liked before because of confusion and fear he didn't genuinely like me and she could feel like this if you're "one of the guys" and she's not popular. It's kinda low self esteem stuff and combined with the nerves makes things difficult. She probably does really like you but if she can't handle going out with you there's nothing you can do. It's her issue. You've asked her straight out twice. If she's acting immture and geting mad at you (you've done nothing wrong) then you just have to walk away and do your thing.
Well in my personal expierience, when I act like Kristen its because I don't like the idea of the guy moving on. I no it sounds selfish but for some reason when a guy is into me and I'm not as into him, he moves on obiously and then I get mad because he's not into me anymore. The chase is over in other words. But at the same time she could just think that she isn't good enough for you or that she might dissapoint you because you are so much "cooler" than her.
Im not sure if I answered your question but I hope I helped put something in perspective.
To me it sounds like she is very shy and has low self-esteem (which I find very cute and attractive) and in my honest opinion you should try your best to be nice/cool to her sweet talk her because if you really like her and she is trying to push you away you can't let her even if it hurts, and I'm sure if/when you get through the pushing it will be well worth it. Hope this helps.
You find her low self esteem attractive....? never knew lack of confidence was a plus...lol - 5 months ago
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Yea, I know that's really weird, and I don't really know why, but I find stuff like that very attractive and feel a strong compulsion to try and protect people like that, idk. - 5 months ago
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