Guys and intentions?

Guys don't want to talk about their intentions because if they did, then they would be most likely slapped in their face. The reality is simple: most guys just want to get laid. There might be some nice guys out there that do want to have a girlfriend and such, but believe me, girls ignore the nice guys, and I know that cause long ago I used to be a dumb nice guy and all I ever got was, 'oh, someday you'll find yourself a nice girl.' hahaahahah
Enough ranting.
Most of the time the intention of the guy----specifically at your age range----is to get more sexual experience; this could be making out, kissing, and just sex. What would you do if the guy replied, 'oh, I just want to make out,' or 'i just want to get laid'? Most likely you would run from him. So what do guys do? They are as ambiguous as ever, and when they see they have a chance, then they go for the kill.

Now, so that you know----if the guy really liked you and wanted to get to know you and wanted to be your bf----BELIEVE ME! He would definitely tell you, 'oh, I like you, maybe we should date' or anything along those lines. Anytime that you hear a guy saying, 'i don't know where this is going', you might as well translate that to,'I'd like to fvck you, but since you're not jumping on me, I"ll stick around so until I can make the right move.'

well, first I'd have to know what do you mean by "hang out"? were you doing friendly activities, were you making our, were you having sex? what does hanging out mean in this context?


honestly, he could just not be ready to tell you. I hate this question, because girls usually ask it exactly right when I don't want to answer it.usually just when you are enjoying things and letting them develop.

in simple terms, it's likely one of several things.
a)he just wants sex and so he avoids the question to avoid having to lie to get it
b)he could not know himself(yet.this is a timing thing) or
c)he just may not want to put any expectations on anything yet

my best answer is, if you are wondering, ask. while I love this board and how it helps us all to understand the other sex, a lot of these questions are pretty easy to answer by asking the person involved :)

Quick answer: He probably just doesn't know. There's the big secret. He might very well mean what he said.

Long answer: First, I need some clarification. "Where he sees her in his life?" Does that mean the same thing as "where is this relationship going?" or "Do you see us together in ____________ months (or years)?" Or is this: "Where do you put me on the level of priorities?"

As for the priorities issue, the answer will change from moment to moment, day to day, month to month, etc. Right now in my life, the woman I date would probably be fourth down the line at this moment.

Now, if we're talking about the future of the relationship, here's my answer.

Those guys who can be a bit overly romantic and dramatic tend to learn that this sort of thing is not good. There are those though that still get overly dramatic and try to talk the talk to get what they want, so of course, they're going to say that they love you more than life itself within a short time of meeting you. Watch for that.

There's another idea that a man shouldn't ask where this is going, as this lets the girl have "too much" control. You've asked her out, now SHE has to show some interest back. If she doesn't ask, then she's not thinking about a relationship, or she's happy dating others or keeping those options open. She asks, so that the man can gauge how serious she is about making this a relationship.

I'm a logical guy. Last relationship, I didn't want to say we were boyfriend and girlfriend after the first date. I know people who do that, and they often create a lot of bad drama for everyone.

Honestly, I don't know after even 4 months if I LOVE someone romantically, or if it's infatuation these can often appear identical.

Asking me really early on, you'll get my ideas and opinions at that time, because honestly, I don't know what tomorrow may bring. I don't want to give women false or unrealistic hopes, so I downplay my interest a bit, as I have to figure out whether or not you're really the girl I like or if it's just some big act you're putting on. Then I have to figure out if I'M putting on some sort of mask myself, even unintentionally. Then I have to figure out HOW MUCH love is there, and what kind of love it is. That takes a long time for some people.

I can look at my crush and be shy. I can look at her big brown eyes and blush, want to follow her around like I'm some little kid. But, if she got out of my life, I honestly wouldn't be that heartbroken because I realize that even with all that stuff that I FEEL, there's no relationship. And I KNOW that so far it's "just" a crush." As much as I'm interested, there's nothing she owes me or I owe her. And I have my other crush that might work out. I try to avoid thinking about her too much (damned near impossible), and have other interests.

That being said, if you want to keep dating him, go ahead. But eventually, you should probably leave him behind if he still can't commit after a few months.

Why did you ask the same question twice?

It's true most guys don't want to talk about their intentions unless they have to or they do want to be something with you and they can tell your getting impatient and are going to leave then they fix the problem before its too late if that's there intentions. The point is you have only hung out 3 times with this guy and I know that if a boy asked me my intentions after that I wouldn't be like wow he's in the rush to seal the deal or he's definitely a clinger. So maybe he's not comfortable saying "oh I like you" because it's too early. Its a little early to start rushing things when you barely know someone and guys especially aren't just going to sign their freedoms away on a whim. You will know what you are to him eventually even if he doesn't come out and put a label on it. More importantly good things happen to those who wait so chill out and take it one step at a time. If you feel like all he wants is sex then that's probably what it is since your first instinct is right. Just wait awhile not forever though and don't give him anything sexual until you feel he's worthy of it so that you don't have to worry that it's all about him using you. Good luck. Oh, and sexwiseman eventhough he's right about somethings sounds pretty bitter :)