there is a guy that I just met (2 weeks) and we are going on our first date tomorrow - I am really attracted to this guy and the chemistry is definitely there but I don't want to ruin the possibility of a future. the biggest problem is that he's moving back home (4 states away) and I would like him to "want" to come back. what to do?
Tough choice.is the moving permanent, temporary? If he is moving away permanently and you do have sex on the first night, I'm inclined to say that you won't be hearing back from him.I've been in that spot; as a traveler, I meet women in different states, and if I go on a date and they do have sex with me, believe me, I only call them back if I"m coming to that state because hopefully I'll get more action.So if he knows he is moving permanently, then maybe I would recommend staying away from the sex; you can always make out though :P
I'M HOPING IT'S NOT PERMANENT - I HOPE OUR DATE DETERMINES THAT.... OH, I DO PLAN ON A COUPLE OF KISSES - I JUST WILL HAVE TO MAKE SURE IT'S NOT IN A "TOO PRIVATE" SETTING! THANKS SO MUCH. - 5 months ago
just be you're self and don't try to have sex on you're first date because he'll think that you're too easy to get and maybe he'll not even contact you , so be patient don't rush anything it's not the end of the wrld ok . have a great weekend
THANKS! I WAS GOING TO FOLLOW MY INTUITION AND "NOT" HAVE SEX. I JUST KNOW IT'S HARD TO STEP BACK WHEN YOU'RE THAT ATTRACTED TO SOMEONE! - 5 months ago
You know I have been on first dates with women and had sex with them. We had all the same thing you have but after the first date, we were "dating" and after awhile it was just about the sex and not the relationship. Which is why they all failed. I would say no on this one. Don't have sex with him. If the guy is worth his salt he will wait. I know I would.
Agreed 100%; once you do have sex on that first date, guys tend to view you just as a sexual object, cause to think of it, every date that I had sex with on the first date, never ever went on to anything else, except maybe a friend with benefits relationship. - 5 months ago
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Yeah exactly. The friends with Benefits is great and grand and glorious but there is no substance. Sex will not keep him around. It is the connection that keeps us around. The joy that we feel when we are around some one that we connect with. If he comes back it will be because of the connection that he want to keep. - 5 months ago
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IT DID HELP! THANKS!!!!! - 5 months ago
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