I messed up really bad, and I don't remember any of it.

Alcohol makes you do silly things, makes you forget, makes you lose control of yourself and your inhibitons.

Boring but age has taught me that a couple of drinks, even a few on a night out and waking up feeling normal, well and remembering you didn't do anything totally stupid is soso much better than making a total twit of yourself, being sick, waking up feeling like total dog sh!te, not remembering what you did, peed off at how much money you wasted just to feel so awful.

Its just not worth it.

you were drunk, being drunk makes people do stupid things.(obviously):is the answer to # 1

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and if your other friends were drunk also, then they did a smart thing a stayed away from the cops and ran: answer to #2.

Well, yeah, I would say you f*cked up w/H by making out with her best friend and then acting like an as*hole with the people that you mentioned. It is evident to me why no one waited for you at the jail. H probably would have if you had not made out with her best friend that nite. I think that they were probably trying to help teach you a lesson - that if you act like that, they aren't going to come to your rescue. I know that if I acted like that, I surely would not deserve to have my friends come to my rescue or anything like that because I deserve whatever consequences come with my stupidity. So, I would say that, from reading your story, you made out with H's best friend for reasons other than being attracted to her. I know that people do stupid things like that out of insecurity - trying to make the other person jealous in order to find out if they really want to be with us. When it didn't work w/H, you probably had some more issues come up and then tried to start more trouble - either out of anger or out of trying to get H's attention. Well, I'm sure you succeeded at that. However, things don't seem to be totally lost. I know that you can't go back and change what you did, but really, I don't see it as that big of a deal. Yes, it was very stupid, but it sounds like H is still a friend to you and that she is willing to still talk to you, etc. So, I would say that all is not lost. You just had a moment of stupidity, that's all. Just don't let it happen again. Apologize to her and your friends and tell them how stupid it was, and then move on with life! Just try to recognize when you are feeling insecure with your relationship with H and try to prevent yourself from doing anything stupid! Also, try to build up your confidence in yourself and the fact that she does really like you. Good luck dude! :)

people act different ways when they've been drinking, and it sounds like you may be one of those guys for whom 1 is never enough. staying away from the booze sounds like a good idea - I have some friends who made this decision for themselves, as it was really hurting them to get completely smashed all the time.

as to your friends leaving you in jail - what else could they have done? the police might not have allowed them to take you away whilst you were in your blacked-out state (something to do with duty of care).

at the very least it sounds like you need to apologise to H & her friend, and let them know you've given up drinking.

good luck

1. Alcohol is called liquid courage. You were being bold and a f**king DUMB A**. Your not the first one to do this and you will not be the last. But, and please forgive me, YOUR A F**KING IDIOT FOR GETTING ARRESTED!
2. There is an old Mexican saying, You know your true friends when your in jail and when you move. Your true friends will be there for both.
2a. Because they did not want to get picked up along with you.

The good thing is that it all can be fixed over time. With your friends those are some trust issues that may not go away. I will tell you this, my best friend was in jail for a DWI. I didn't find out until a day and a half later. I was on the phone looking for a way to get him out of jail and back home. When I finally found him he was walking home from jail and I picked him up, took him to lunch and got him home. I was the only one to do that. Everyone else left him for dead. He thanked me and told me that I was a good friend. That meant allot.

If H did not stick with you, stick up for you, or come to get you out of jail then really, honestly she isn't worth having. A good woman will always stick by her man, just as a good man will always stick by his woman.

Drinking is ok, you just have to be smart about it. If you do go out and drink, go with people that you know and trust will watch your back and you watch theirs. Drinking at home is good, but again you have to be smart about it and not over do it and cause problems. If you cause problems like you did this night I would let your ass get arrested again and leave you there because you didn't learn the first time.

Everything will work them selves out over time. You just have to let it.

Take care and be careful.

well, seems to me mate that youve benn f****ed over. By your friends and ur girl (H).
I would just try and explain what happened to H and see what happens, but give it time. And as for ur 'mates' what the hell happened? I thought they were supposed to have ur back or somethin.:P