Guys, how would you like to be rejected?

If you're hesitant to tell him directly, then all it will take is a cold attitude on your part and he will almost certainly get the message. failing that, just write him a one line message, polite but to the point.and leave it on his work station.

There are probably already rumors circulating.that doesn't take long in most work environments. The sooner you get him the message the quicker you can stop those, which are worse than the truth usually and could be a major personal problem if you let this go on much longer.!

Well be conscious of your body language and how you act around him as far as not letting him get the wrong idea. You could drop phrases about how he is such a great friend. As far as letting him down goes, just simply say you aren't attracted to him in that way and only like him as a friend or brother. That's probably the easiest way to do it.

One is to tell the truth, but be kind about it. I have absolutely no hard feelings towards those few women who have said no (but done with respect). Don't give too many excuses, don't give the "pity compliment," just say that you two aren't compatible.

You could say you don't date guys from work (just make sure that if you DO date a guy, don't date anyone from the office if you use this one on him; otherwise, you'll be showing yourself as a bit of a hypocrite).

Or there IS another way; I don't recommend it, unless he's being pushy and you haven't given OTHER excuses before this one) it's a lie, but you make up "the boyfriend." That is, unless he knows for a fact that you're single. Or, you can preemptively beat him to the punch. "Oh, I had a great weekend! My boyfriend and I went to _________________. " "Oh, my boyfriend set up this really great romantic dinner and it was so sweet!"

Just be smart if you use an excuse. At least APPEAR to look like you're telling the truth when you say no. If you have a boyfriend, you're off the market at work. No flirting with anyone. No talking and complaining to work friends about your single life later. If you use the "office policy" as an excuse, don't date anyone from the office, even if they're cute. Play it smart.

The frustrating part is when I catch a girl in a really bad lie. "I already have a boyfriend" and then two days later, I hear her complain about how rough it is being single. "I don't date anyone from class," and then she dates another guy from my class two weeks later. This is partly why I don't recommend lying, unless you absolutely have to to get out of a really potentially nasty situation. If you have to lie, make sure you can cover that lie.

The thing is, somehow, he's probably been feeling like he's getting some sort of signals from you. Don't flirt with him. That's the quickest way for the guys who aren't completely clueless. I often won't make a move unless I feel like I'm getting signals. No one flirts with me, so I haven't asked anyone out in a long time.

If you work together you need to act quickly to disillusion him before he gets too emotionally involved. Just a couple of quick words while you're passing in the hallway, like 'I already have a boyfriend' will do nicely. You don't need to go into a long soliloquy about it. Not this early on.

If you don't want to go out with a guy then you don't and this guy is no exception! The fact that he might feel rejected is a secondary matter. You need to take care of your own business first and learn to say no and not feel guilty. You don't owe every guy that likes you a date or a relationship. Usually a guy won't ask a girl out unless he's been picking up those kind of signals from her, So make sure you aren't sending out the wrong signals. When he's been flirting with you, you should have been kinda ignoring him rather than be smiling back and acting like everything was cool between you two. Start being like you should have been before and start now! Don't be worrying if he gets hurt or not of if you think he might feel you're mean because if you do, you'll be the one to get hurt or you both will more so later. If he should ask you out, just be upfront with him but in a nice indirect way. Like put him on the defensive rather than his putting you on the defensive. Reply back with a question like, "why the heck are you asking me out?" Or, "well thanks but I thought we were just friends and I think we should keep it that way, don't you?" Or, "I don't really think it's a good idea that we go out since we're working in the same place and I don't want to ruin our friendship, do you?" These are examples. The main thing is to answer with a question why you don't wanna go. But cool it with him from then on or he might even get bolder. Make SURE not to lead guys on that you don't want a relationship with. Whenever a guy seems to be getting a little more friendly with you than what you like, make it a point to cool things down a bit by your having less and less interest in what he's doing or saying. He'll soon get the hint.

make hints that you don't seem him as more than a friend. say something like "you're such a good friend," or "I'm glad we're friends." it may sound lame but it will work. also don't flirt with him AT ALL, EVER. He'll get the message without having to deal with him asking you out, making it awkward. If he still does, just be nice as possible, and tell him you really like him as a friend.

If he asks you out, which I wouldn't worry about until the time comes, since worrying is like withdrawing money to pay a bill today that you may or may not need to pay tomorrow, simply tell him the truth. Let him know that he is a nice guy and that you just aren't interested. You are responsible for you. He is responsible for him. Each of you is responsible for how you influence the other, but each of you is responsible for how you are influenced by the other as well. Speak the truth in gentle kindness and let him process whatever comes up because of it. If he chooses not to process whatever comes up, he may choose to be bitter, or withdraw. That is his choice, not yours. While you cannot make the choice for him, you can present the truth to him, gently and kindly, which is the best way to encourage him to go through whatever he needs to, if he is hurt by your "rejection."

One other thing.
When you label your, might be impending, choice as rejection, you give away something about yourself. Rejection is not possible when someone doesn't know you. When someone denies themselves of the privilege of getting to know you, they aren't rejecting you, since the don't know you. Instead they are limiting their risk of potential pain, which also limits their opportunities for potential rewards (like joy). Think about a see-saw. If pain were at one end, joy would be at the other. If you build a wall to protect yourself from pain, you have to balance that wall with an identical one on the joy side. Only God can truly protect you anyway, so why bother with all the protective mechanisms? Let God tear down the walls, make the paths straight, and bring real joy and peace into your life. He knows and loves you. No one else will ever know you better, so no one else should have the authority in your life to make you feel rejected, worthless or like you are a burden. God doesn't just love you, He likes and adores you.

if he asked you to go out you need to be honest with you'r self before been honest with him so
you should tell him its not gonna work out , and you want him as a friend nothing more,
try to keep you'r relationship with him just business , ok

Please don't worry about hurting him. The best thing you can do is be very clear. Don't leave room for interpretation. Most guys have a hard time picking up on even genuine signs of disinterest, because lots of girls play hard to get, even when they like the guy. Plus since they like you, they're looking too hard for the signs they want to see, and downplaying those signs that might clue them in.

So seriously, don't be subtle, and definetely don't go out with him if you don't like him like that, becasue all he'll be hoping for is more than you want to give him.

As for a gentle let down, it's pretty much impossible. Just use common sense. Obviously don't call him a dork, but don't bother with the "I think your a great guy" stuff because all he'll hear is the "I don't like you lke that" stuff. The best thing to say, if he makes the move, is the simple truth: "Look - you're really just not my type," or "I'm just not into you like that."

Yeah, he'll probably be hurt, but he'll get over it in a reasonable amount of time, because that's what people do, and that's what time does - heal. If he doesn't get over it, it's because he's not letting himself get over it. And that means he's got problems that have nothing to do with you, and you'd ultimately make him more miserable by stringing him along or not being clear with how you feel about him.

Hope that helps.

Maybe I'm naive, but normally one icy stare from a woman is all I need for me to cool my jets.