Okay, I was just wondering. I work in a restaurant/ice cream place. I am quite shy, but I was wondering if when I get a customer that I am automatically attracted to. Do they pick up on that or not? I don't act any differently, just normal, but can guys somehow know that you are attracted to them even if you just talk to them like a normal person/customer. That means, no flirtly smiles and all that giggly stuff.
I wouldn't worry about it. Most guys miss probably 90% of the subtle cues women give off when they're attracted to a guy. Here's a sample list of things women subconsciously do to draw attention or show interest:
1. If She Wants to Speak to You:
She points her feet towards you when standing up. She smiles, or looks away embarrassed when you hold eye contact. She jerks her leg in your direction if sitting down with legs crossed. She adjusts her posture – sits up straighter and holds in belly. She faces you with her hips/legs while sitting. She opens up her body language to you while standing. She brushes up against you unnecessarily when she passes. She looks at you twice before approach. She touches her hair when she notices you.
If you get one of these signals, go in and start a conversation with her. Your next goal is to take the interaction to a point where she wants to have a conversation with you. It might happen immediately or it might not. If you have approached without any of the above invitations, you should look for some of the below to know that she is interested in you.
2. If She is Interested in Extending the Interaction:
She asks you questions She asks your name. She gives extended answers to your questions.
So now you know whether she likes you to the point of wanting to talk to you, but how do you know if she wants to get physical with you?
3. If She is Sexually Attracted to You:
She strokes her neck when in conversation with you. She looks at your mouth. She tilts head to the side when speaking to you. Her pupils dilate. She laughs too much at your jokes, even when they aren't funny. She is happy listening to you even when you are talking rubbish. She holds eye contact with you and doesn't look around the room or at her friends. Note: if she is nervous and it is just not her character to hold strong eye contact, she could still be interested. She is comfortable with you touching her and invading her space. She shows willingness to leave her friends and stay with you. She laughs and hits you on the shoulder when you tease her. She looks at you in a dreaming kind of way. She asks if you are single. She says your name in conversation. She leans in to you.
Also, women drop hints and show interest through body language and subtext. Naturally guys are usually pretty obtuse when it comes to that stuff. If you're interested in a guy and do want him to know, the only surefire method of getting his attention is to come right out and say so. - 4 months ago
Question Asker
Well, I would definately not be that direct. I would be more subtle in my approach. I would probably slightly smile, look down and look up again. I would only laugh if they were flirting with me first. So I guess I don't have the right techniques in how to make myself more approachable. I find it difficult to change. :( - 4 months ago
Answerer
Body language is huge when it comes to being approachable. If you are timid, or have a bitchy vibe going, then nobody will want to talk with you. You need to come off as bubbly/chatty with everyone and carry yourself with confidence. Guys have enough anxiety with approaching women, so anything you can do to be more open and approachable will go a long way to helping your own cause. - 4 months ago
honestly its hard to say to anyone , I mean I've been in this situation couple time's but the girl was staring at me but I didn't say anything because I thought maybe she was thinking about something else, so if you want someone to react to you're attraction you shuld do something like staring then try to start a conversation .
nope we're not psychic. actually in many cases if you say to a guy point-blank "wow you turn me on" chances are he'll go "huh?" with a confused expression on his face ;)
men generally suck at picking up non-verbal cues, which is why girls can get frustrated with us when they're trying to communicate.
i don't think you have to worry that you're sending out some kind of broadcast when you see someone you like the look of.
Many guys can tell when you are attracted to them. My guy friends tells me when they get the sign that a girl is attracted to them and after sometime they will start dating.
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