A guy who I was interested in seemed interested in me. I went over to the US from Asia. The same thing happened. We hung out a few times with other friends, briefly alone. He disappeared after the last meeting before I went back to Asia. After about 2 weeks, he and I resumed contact online after I left him a couple of messages. We just stayed as friends. All along he has never said anything with regards to dating. That's fine. Before I left US, I gave him a gift card from a store as a birthday present.
I never asked him if he used it only until after one year has passed. He said that he tried to use it recently (like a few weeks before) but it didn't work, there wasn't any value inside (according to the store personnel). I seriously didn't know why. I said when I bought the card it was already credited with the amount and I paid for the amount of credit that the card contained. He just went on to say "oh maybe the personnel didn't know what he was doing" and other stuff. I suggested that maybe the card had an expiry date but I didn't know about it. He promptly replied that it was illegal in California for vouchers or gift cards to have an expiry date. Well I didn't know! Up till today I still don't know if that was true. I've only lived in Michigan before and made several trips to California but that was the first time I heard about such things.
However, it was this that really turns me off. It hurt me not only because it seems like he was insinuating that I played a prank on him by giving him a gift card with no value inside but also because he couldn't even talk to me about this in the manner that a normal friend would. I certainly didn't pay USD 15 (or was it USD 20?) to get this kind of response from him! I was so mad and hurt, I had to go out of the office to cry and dry for a while before I returned back to work. I wrote him back and said that: "I apologize if I have caused you any confusion and inconvenience." He replied, returning to his tirade of "oh maybe the person didn't know what he was doing" or "maybe they didn't credit any value to the card". A friend commented that I was too nice and should have just blasted him off. Are there other girls out there who have gone through this kind of nonsense? This has happened to me a few years ago and I have never kept in contact with the guy since. Did I handle the situation properly? Was I too soft? Too harsh? What would you all have done in my place?
You seem like a keeper,...I wish a girl would come from a foreign place to date me,...I can't believe he treated you that way,...I don't think it was right for him to be a jerk about it,...It's the thought that counts,...Besides you traveled the world for him,...He should be ashamed of himself,...You coming down there was a great gift. Girl you definitely deserve better and I think you handled the situation fine.
I think that he was being okay, he didn't mean it in a bad way. And well, maybe something did happen, but it's not to get upset over. You handled it fine. Of course you are mad at him and that's natural.
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When: 11 months ago
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