My friend doesn't tell me everything

I was worried before you asked if it was just a gender difference. Yeah, it kinda is, but even more so, it's a him/everyone else difference. I think you guys should start spending weekends together and then you wouldn't have to ask him if you wanted to know. Otherwise, if this is a problem, you're going to start having to get over it, because you shouldn't try to change him.

Maybe he is playing hard to get.. maybe his life isn't that exciting so rather say anything he says nothing.. try asking your other friends to watch his moods when your not around maybe he has a hard time when you are away that would be a clear sign that he has strong feelings for you.

Us guys just want to talk about something more better than 'how was your weekend'. We usually want to talk about something that was funny.

I don't think it is just a male/female difference, but I think it does have to do more the rumors that had haunted him as a child that kind of surrounded him. It sounds like that someone close to him as well kind of stabbed him in the back because of the rumors. Which you can ask him about his past, but if he does not want to telll you then its your job as friend to just accept him for who he is and don't worry about what he does on the weekends. focus more on what your going to be doing with him that minute. As for you friend though I would say that he probably needs some counseling so he can work out the issues he has. He also needs to know that he's not in highschool anymore, but I would let a Counselor tell him that. Though in the mean time you as a friend just tell him that you understand why he feels the way that he feels, but also let him know that he can trust you. Try to focus more on what your going to be doing with him that minute and not what happend this past weekend and that could make it easier on both of you.

although I've noticed guys don't discuss a lot about their day- some guys actually do- so I think this may be something about your friend. he just doesnt like discussing it. Its ok- he doesn't mean to upset you but it just isn't in his nature. I suggest that you not ask him about his weekend- tell him about urs if you like- and if/when he wants he can discuss something with u- just dont make him feel as though he has to so he can be more comfortable with u.

I think it's a male / female difference to a certain extent. Guys don't normally tell details unless they have a funny punchline, juicy gossip they know you'll love to hear, or something otherwise entertaining both to tell and listen to.

But, to declare a desire for privacy from your best friend - that's odd regardless of gender. I guess that's just a part of his personality...take the good with the bad!

This might be a male/female difference--most guys don't enjoy talking at any point. But try asking him open-ended questions about his opinions. Then they never shut up.