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Changing for a guy?

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daisyELECTRIC (Age:Under 18)     When: 4 months ago
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I was always one to think that changing for a guy was stupid. If he didn't like you they way you are, then sucks for him. But lately I've been thinking that maybe it isn't such a bad thing.

There's this guy that I've liked for the past year and I want more than anything for him to like me. I'm considering trying to be more like the girls that he's liked to get him to see me as more than a friend. But is this really a good idea? Is changing for someone really worth it?

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adorkable (Age:Under 18)      When: 3 months ago
no. don't do it.
unless your talking about a hairstyle change or something , don't do.
He won't be in love with the real you , and you'll keep having to fake it so he likes you. For all we know ,because of Mr-Unworthy , you can't see the cute guy staring at you from across the room! :]
You might also lose a few friends.
I had a female friend that used to skateboard with me , and then when this new guy came into town. She fell for him. So she bailed on me , and started bmxing because that's what the new guy did. If you skate/bmx , you'll know that bmxers and skaters have some kind of hate relationship with eachother. Anyway , so she started bmxing , they get talking , and he askes her is all she ever did was bmxing? and just 'cause he's "worth it" , she says yeah, and after that a whole lot of lies followed to cover it up. The truth got out when he asked my boyfriend and my boyfriend had no idea that she had swapped which crowd she was with.
After ditching her beloved skateboard , and friends , and lost the respect of many guys that we skated with.
Did she get the boy? No. Better yet ,the boy asked me out. and the girl who sits next to him in class. -.-
He only sees her as a friend and a try-hard.
So from the true story above , are you willing to risk it?
Don't do it.
Love yourself
The right guy will love you for who you are , in your sweatpants and all.
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MCRmyPandaxX (Age:Under 18)      When: 4 months ago
NNNOOOOOO!
I think that's like the worst mistakes girls make! I hate that. If he doesn't like you for who you are he isn't worth it. Point Blank. Instead of changing try talking to him see what you and him have in commen see how you and him mesh. Trust me, guys come and go. When the right one comes he will like you for who you are and won't dare let you change.


Personality is what a relationship is based on. If you change your personality then it's basically based on a lie.
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Anonymous User (Age:18 to 24)      When: 4 months ago
Unless you are changing something minor like your hairstyle, no it's not. Doing so is like putting that person on a pedestal and saying that you're not good enough the way you are. If he doesn't like you for you then he is not worth changing for. Love yourself more than you want some guy to like you.
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irish-girl-08 (Age:18 to 24)      When: 4 months ago
i tryed changing for people before and it never worked, you can't change who you are, and if you did and someone fell in love with you it wouldn't be the same because you weren't being you,no its not a good idea if he doesn't like you in that way he never will and changing who you are for some guy whos name you probally won't remeber in 10 years time,is so not worth it as cliche as it sounds someone will love you for who you are and you will love them back but if he can't see how great you are then his loss someone else will
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justme45 (Age:18 to 24)      When: 4 months ago
never change who you are for someone else. tried that. it doesn't work. your true colors always wind up showing in the long run.
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