I'm 18 and I've never had a girlfriend. I'm not a bad looking guy or anything, but I am really self conscious.
I get loads of compliments and stuff, even girls approaching me, but I am too nervous and scared to follow up on anything. I just sit there quietly, fidgeting or runaway. I can't say one word to them.
I can never keep eye contact. If they see me staring at them, I can never look back at them. If I know they are staring at me, I can't look at them. I'll pretend like I can't see them.
I was home schooled my high school years, so I kinda got really shy and stuff. I sorta developed a phobia of talking/looking at girls?
I started college a couple days ago. I didn't make any friends. I'm like the only quiet one in my ALL my class. I'm always sitting there with my hands under the table looking straight at the board. I don't think I said one word to anyone, even the professors. I usually just nod my head if it's a yes or no question.
I always ask questions like "what if she likes me, then ends up not liking me" "what if I'm not good enough for her" "what do I say" "how will my life be when I get a girlfriend" "she's way out of my league" etc.
I'm almost scared to get a girlfriend. I really want one, but I'm scared, shy, and nervous.
I'm usually always smiling and in a happy mood. But when I see a girl I'm interested in, I can't smile. I've been told I've got a really nice smile.
I even had a girl ask me if I had a girlfriend(she kept smiling and stuff at me). I said no then I walked away. I didn't know what else to do. (I actually can't believe I did that. she was REALLY pretty)
Today while I was sitting on the bench waiting for my ride, there was a girl that smiled at me,(I smiled back) then she sat next to me. (There was a free bench across from me, so I'm pretty sure she was interested?) We didn't say a word though. I was fidgeting the whole time. It was like this for 10 minutes. What do I do if I see her again?
Then in history I had a girl keep staring at me. And then when class got out, she kept looking over her shoulder at me(4 or 5 times). We didn't say a word though.
(There's others, but this is getting pretty lengthy. Those are just the most recent ones.)
I'm kinda inexperienced because I was home schooled my high school years, so I don't really know what to do and how to react in some situations. It feels really weird being around all these people in college, it's a whole different experience for me.
Ok well I'm sixteen and have never been in a relationship before. I'm like you I'm shy and never say anything. And boys tell me I'm pretty all the time I just suck at this whole dating thing to I guess. But my advice to you is girls really like it when you approach them, it might seem hard and you will be nervous probably but chances are they will probably like you just because you were brave enough to do it. Anyway good luck and I'm sure you will eventually start to meet people and make friends at college, look at it this way to if you get rejected its not like highschool and not everybody is going to know about it. In highschool something like that happens and the entire school knows colleges are generally big enough that not everyone know or nobody even cares so go for it and have fun!
ok believe me having a boyfriend or girlfriend ain't all what its made out to be,
you need to make friends you will have so much fun and have an amazing college experience if you make friends believe me life without friends is very depressing I've been there done that ,
and if you make friends being around them will give the confidence to be able to talk to and meet girls so its kind of a win win situation
and also remeber as your new to this if a girl rejects you don't take it to heart we all get rejected in life we can't be everyones cup of tea
just talk to people and make friends and you will see how much things will change
Also.any girl girl will talk to any guy as long as you don't just sit there like a rock in the corner.put yourself out there a little bit .it won't hurt.if the guys are total jerks don't worry bout it because if you have the girls they are going to want to be your friend then too.and the more friends that are girls will introduce you to their friends and it will keep going.also if a girl introduces you to some of their guy friends.if their guy friends start to make fun of you just ignore them and also the girl will stick up for you.because she is already your friend.cant think of anymore to put right now.if I think of anymore I will be sure to help you out!
good luck!
i too just started college this year and I have already made a ton of friends.just by talking to people and not caring what they think of me! if they don't like you .you will be able to tell.and you can either just still try to be nice to them or forget you ever met them.but anyhow if you need anything just ask!
You have a self-esteem issue. You need to start believing in yourself. :)
Everyone has a first boyfriend/girlfriend. It will always be nerve racking until you start to have some confidence. The way to get more confidence is to begin talking to new people. College is a great place to meet and talk with new people.
A lot of people in college, especially their first year, go through self-image problems. They only see themselves as the person they were during high school. Most of the people in college have no idea who you are. To them you are just another person. As a matter of fact, many students might think that you being home schooled is very interesting.
1. Stop worrying about getting a "girlfriend".
If you focus on this it will never happen and if it does you it won't work out.
2. Start worrying about making friends.
Learn to be yourself around people. The more people you talk to, the more comfortable you will become. If people start to talk to you just try to be yourself. It might help if you talk to them as though they were your younger cousin.
People aren't judging you all the time. Everyone else is just as worried about making new friends as you are. The ones who seem more extroverted have all ready become comfortable being themselves. You just need to become more relaxed.
Talk to people. Answer their questions. If they laugh at you, they are probably just joking. If they aren't joking they are immature and others will notice how immature they are being. Don't be afraid to laugh at yourself. So you're dorky. So am I! So you're fat. So am I!
Confidence is like a magnet.
Once your confidence begins to grow and you become comfortable being yourself you will be amazed at how woman are just attracted to you.
Be nice to all women! (fat, ugly, skinny, pretty) Quality will follow quantity. The more friends you make the more you learn about yourself and what you want in a women. Eventually you will be able to pick and choose the woman that you want as a girlfriend.
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