Liking yourself?

i understand where you're coming from - when I was around your age I was convinced I was an unlovable freak, but I got over it eventually.

if nothing else, that's an important message: pretty much everyone has similar feelings as a teenager, and pretty much everyone works through it in time as part of growing up (some faster than others, of course, but generally there's light atthe end of the tunnel)

i'm a guy & guys have to find "solutions" when confronted with a "problem"; so - you may just have wanted to vent, but if you want to actually try some things to feel better about yourself, there are some things you can consider.

basically, try to think about yourself as objectively as possible: try to identify excessively negative ("i'm the worst . in the world") and excessively positive ("i'm perfect at .") feelings about yourself & separate them off as overly-subjective.

try to identify your positive traits, even if you think they're trivial: maybe you're good at maths, or you can write well, or you're an accomplished reader; maybe you're good at a sport or find it easy to talk to & empathise with other people, and know how to give good advice. try to keep those positive thoughts in mind when you're giving yourself a hard time about something else.

now consider some negative things and see if there's a way of thinking about it positively; for example you might feel that you are odd, but another way of looking at that you are an individual (which is usually seen as a good thing); or you might be shy, but that can be turned to mean that when you *do* say something, people might find what you say is more relevant and useful to them than someone who chatters away all day. again, be objective, and consider the traits from all directions, almost as if you were thinking about someone else.

it seems to me that a lot of girls, especially, seem to have trouble emphasising their own good features to themselves. give yourself a break when you consider your merits: there are few if any people who live up to all the ideals.

Aside from all of that self esteem, "You're a special and unique snowflake" trash that shrinks are tossing around these days -- you don't. If you don't like who you are, change. If you're not smart, educate yourself. If you don't like your clothing, buy something different. If you think you're introverted, get out more. Etc.

Some people say you cannot change who you are -- I whole-heartedly disagree. People change all the time. It just takes time.