I had sex for the first time with my boyfriend a few days ago. He has been asking me for it for about two months, but saying he was willing to wait and respecting me for it-it was his first time as well. Decided to go for it because I felt I was ready, but now he’s acting really weird.
Last heard from him was a short text a few days ago making up an excuse when I asked to see him over the next few days, and saying he’d see what he could do and would call me soon. I’ve heard nothing at all for three days bearing in mind I’m used to talking to him pretty much every day, even if it’s just a text. This has happened several times before- I ended it by sending him a text saying did he actually want to make time for me, to which he responded by talking to me a lot for several days and seeing me lots to make up for it, before returning to little communication. When he sees me he just wants to make out if we’re alone, which is great but that’s pretty much all he wants to do.
Should I cave in again and just text or call him, even though he seems to be ignoring me? Or should I just be letting him have his own space, though this waiting is killing me? I feel really upset because it was a huge step losing my virginity and I feel like he should be there for me. Can anyone help me to understand why he’s acting like this?
Sorry for the bluntness, but you got played. Anytime a guy acts like that is because he was just there for the sex. Once you gave it up, of course he is gone out to conquer another girl or get another trophy to his wall as I'd like to say; as harsh as that sounds, this happens every time; I had my female friends go thru this, but in their case I warned them of what was going to happen, and they sayd, 'oh come on, he wouldn't do that.' Unfortunately guys do that, and your clue is---any time a guy is asking for sex, then you're just viewed as that---a sexual object. Also, you say that when he sees you all that he wants to do is make out---well, now you know why.
So does that mean if a guy never asks for sex then he is a keeper? - 4 months ago
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Is all in the context; if you go out with a guy, and from the start, he starts asking for sex, immediately that's a flag that is all he wants; if a guy is not asking for sex, then you have to pay attention as to how you're treated. Is he the one trying to call you to see you? Is he showing a lot of respect? However, players can do that also cause they got some girl on the side, so you have to look at the big picture of how the guy behaves with you. - 4 months ago
guys will say anything to get what they want. I understand ur upset cause he took your virginity but give him some time. I'm in the same situation now but I didn't have sex with him.
But wait about 3 days more.if he doesn't call or w/e.say something to him.
whoa this is weird! you'd think that he'd want it again so he would keep talkin to you. if I were you I'd def ask him what's going on. that's so sweet how you took eachothers virginities:) anyway, some guys turn out to major assholes after you have sex and want to move on to tryin to get another girl. hopefully this isn't your case. if he's you boyfriend you should be able to talk to him about it. maybe he was just shocked it actually happened or somethin. and just because you had sex now doesn't mean you have to now every time you see eachother.
Is not weird; some guys are just happy being the ones taking the virginity of a girl; and they know that if they stick around too much, then the girl will get attached, so many guys will do it once, and then leave town. Seen it happen too many times, so don't assume just because he got it once, he'll stick around to get it for a 2nd time. - 4 months ago
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