I stutter when I talk and it bugs me a lot. But girls think it's cute. What sense does this make?

I have never had a speech impediment but my husband took speech therapy for a stutter when he was younger. He rarely has a problem now. It seems like it happens when he is trying to speak too quickly and trying to get an important thought out of his head. I have also dated a guy who couldn't pronounce his R's. I felt bad for him because his name started with an R. I never thought it was cute. At first I felt bad about it but the longer I knew them the less I noticed it. My younger brother is extremely intelligent but has an impediment that is more on the severe side. I don't ever think it is funny. I just listen and wait until they are done with their thought. I never speak for them or try to finish their sentences for them. I am sorry you have to deal with this issue but a woman who respects you wouldn't see it as "cute". Sometimes people don't know how to react to issues they don't understand you and you just have to tell them how you want to be treated.

I think that in a lot of cases girls convey to you that they think it's cute because they can see that it frustrates you, and probably assume that it embaresses you. And by telling you that it's cute they think it might make you less embarressed of it. They mean well for the most part I'm assuming. I also have a stutter, but a pretty light one. And I know this guy that used to have a really bad one, but now when he's around us (our group of people that hang out) he doesn't hardly stutter at all. I think being much more comfortable with our group made him slow him down and made it easier to talk to us. It seemed that his nerves made his stutter worse. Anyways, good luck with it.

I completely understand.My brain is 5 times faster than my mouth moves. I've learned how to be aware when I'm at a lost of word, and allowing myself to pause (at this point you can tell I'm thinking); Use clear simple words.It's all about making sense instead big ol' graduate diction.Once your comfortable let the thoughts flow out, allowing your words to be filled with passion. Don't allow yourself to believe your being judged. You have a lot of activity going on in your noggin.The greatest minds are those that never cease from expression, activity, and liveliness.It's called "minds on fire". You can't bullshit and stutter at the same time.The fight alone to express yourself is the "cute" part.

maybe they already think YOU'RE cute, so any little quirk that you have is magnified and becomes cute to them too.

Well, I probably wouldn't like a guy saying my sluttering was cute either, but I guess it is better than them being turned away from it. Usually I disagree with what people say about me anyways, even if it is a compliment. I don't think these girls really know what it feels like to stutter. It is very difficult to get out what you are trying to say, and obviously causes you emotional and physical discomfort. I don't necessarily stutter, but when I am nervous I can't get out what I want to say. I slur my words (sometimes people don't understand me. lol. Or my lips work faster than my mind and I sort of spit at people lol. Not all the time, just when I am REALLY nervous). So in a way, everyone, (or at least some of us) have a sort of stuttering problem when we are nervous. I find it difficult to talk to someone, especially if I am nervous. But I do think people generally like talking to me, once I start to talk. You just have to get comfortable with someone, than your mind won't work faster than your mouth. Just don't give up talking to people, they still like you obviously and find you interesting even if you can't always say everything as clearly as you want.

While it is probably frustrating that they think it's cute and don't fully understand the discomfort it causes you, wouldn't you rather them think it's cute than think it's annoying or something? I mean, if I had a stuttering problem it would make me much happier for guys to tell me that it was cute than, "Oh my gosh I feel soooo sorry for you that just totally sucks!" Cause then everyone feels bad. See what I'm saying? I'm sure the girls who say that do know that it's hard for you to have that problem, but being a girl I can honestly say that flaws (such as stuttering) do often make the man more attractive and 'cute' because it's unique.