Can guys be friends with girls?

I don't know, why can't you?

Did someone say you couldn't?

'Cause if they did they were wrong. I have plenty of friends that are female and no I have not slept with most of them nor is that the goal of my being friends with them. Some of them are ex girlfriends of mine, who I have slept with, when we were going out. The thing is though, that was the past and this is the present, and since I don't live in the past I have no problem being platonic friends with them in the present.

Some guys do have problems with platonic female friends but not all of us do. The thing is though that the door swings both ways on this one. I have had female friends that I don't hang out with anymore because they wouldn't take no for an answer. They wouldn't respect the fact that I am committed to my girlfriend which said to me that they didn't really value our friendship. That being the case why would I want to hang out with them?

It is totally possible, but there is a catch.

I have a number of platonic female friends that I have no interest in ever going further with, but the reason for this is not that I really want to be just friends, it is that I am not attracted to them, either physically or to their personality. I have a number of other female friends that are also platonic, but I would jump at the opportunity to take them further because I am attracted to them.

Though I can't speak for everyone, I see the only way to be just friends with a guy without him harboring a desire to become more than friends is to be physically unattractive to him (since an unattractive personality will almost definitely scare off the friendship too), or make yourself unavailable (marriage etc). I at least will always wish to become more with an attractive woman friend.

I think this is thought by many, because usually the way girls and guys meet is by having an interest in each other that would be beyond platonic friends. Maybe it's by both, and it's not a good time, or it's by one or the other and not reciprocated.

But usually, no matter what, if the friendship stems from this, and continues for any significant time, there is more than likely going to be an awkward moment, or event, or even drunk sex that is regretted by one or the other, or both.

Now, I've witnessed two people that start as friends and it lasts as friends. But like I said, most of these guy/girl introductions start off where someone is into the other. And that's what leads to the fall out of the "friends situation."

But it is certainly possible.

For me.a guy and a girl can have a successful platonic friendship if both stay within the boundary. Both have to be serious about this relationship and want to make it work. If one of you have another motive then is not a platonic friendship anymore.