Have you ever regretted an abortion?

No one who has an abortion comes out happy about it I had an abortion about two months ago we will all have are regrets . We are all in the same postion girls like us. No you did not kill your child I HATE IT WHEN PEOPLE SAY THAT KIND OF THING! It was tissue a tissue that could have become a baby but ultamitly that was urs and mine dissision . We made that choice. And you know what I realised I have my whole future ahead of me and when I'm ready for kids that time will come 26 years old you still were not finachally and most likely emotionaly ready for a child. I talked to my doctor about this and she told me that everyone who has came back for there check up has had some thoughts of regret but the biggest thing to do is put it all behind you and forgive yourself that is the most important thing to do. And yes you will have times where you think about it but hunny do not spend ur hole life on what could have been and when people talk there trash about abortion being murder and all that stupied junk remeber it was ur right as a woman to make that best choice for yourself. And you did! Don't let others put you down for what they have never in there life experinced if you have not experinced abortion for yourself then ur thoughts on abortion are going to be completly differnt than a woman who has had an abortion I prommise you this . I hope I have helped you hunn!

I can totally understand the way you're feeling. I'm 27 years old now, but I had an abortion about 9 months ago. To this day, I say that it was the hardest decision that I have ever had to make. I was not prepared to be a mom since I was working fulltime and going to school full time. My boyfriend was living 5hours away, and was still in school with no money. It was like you said we were ill prepared. At the time I thought I made the right decision. But now three of my best friends are pregnant and happy (one in a similar situation that I was in), and I constantly wonder if I did the right thing. None of my friends understand, my current boyfriend doesn't either, but I too am upset a lot about this. It doesn't help that people tell me "You're going to be a great mom!" I cringe at statements like that because I know its true but I also know that 9months ago I gave up that option for the time being. I don't know why it continues to hurt months or even years after. I have a hard time with this on a daily basis, some days better than others, but I just keep telling myself that there is a lot of life ahead of me, and that I did what I did for the right reasons at the time. You can't turn back time, and you shouldn't waste the present and future agonizing over this all the time because you might miss out on great opportunities. This is what I tell myself for what it is worth. I don't know if this helps but I understand where you are coming from, and I know its a hard place to be.

This is the one thing abortion advocates won't tell you--that we feel a connection to the "child" we carry--I am a mother now and it is a blessing--if I had lost her even naturally it would have killed me--I understand the pain of making a choice to that sort of thing.

I do think they should counsel women on the possiblity emotional fall out from abortion--they make it seem so simple and it isn't--if you are religious realize that God isn't Judging you
and loves you and because of how you feel, you may one day be a mother--even if it is through adoption.

bless you honey *hugs*

Im really sorry you feel that way. Iv never had an abortion done, but sometimes I think about it. There are times I get paranoid that I might be pregnant, and then the abortion thought comes to my mind. Because just as you felt 4 years ago, I feel like I'm not ready either. I don't know if I would ever go through with it, but only time will tell. Knowing me, I wouldn't have the guts to have an abortion. But anyways.

Dont beat yourself up about it. It was a wrong thing to do, and even if it took you 4 years to realize it, you did, and that is all that matters. There's nothing you can do about it now, because what's done is done. Atleast now you see the value of having a baby. Or a fetus, for that matter. Your mistake will help you appreciate the gift of life.
I understand you feel terrible, but now that you've admitted your mistake, you have to learn to forgive yourself. I know this is heard everywhere but, God forgives you. So learn to forgive yourself as well. Everything happens for a reason, and maybe this experience had to happen in order for you to see the beauty, and the gift of bringing a new life into the world.

It is hurting because its legalized murder. Not to be blunt- I am sorry for that. but you made a choice, your a mother who killed her only kid.

Gosh this sounds so harsh- but it breaks my heart that you have to deal with that pain. I have never had a child but my friend once told me that she was going to have a baby. I was so excited for her, but then up and out of the blue she decided to abort that mission. She was 17 I could understand how she felt, not being ready- but who is ever ready to be a parent? Even if you aren't wouldn't there be a better way to go about it.

I know there are a lot of people who are pro-choice, I get that sometimes it is dangerous, sometime people are raped-- but I know this two year old little boy, and his mom for one moment had thought about abortion- because her husband was leaving her, and he was a complete jerk and she didn't know how to deal with it on her own. She said just looking at that baby and thinking about that abortion floored her. Before she couldn't think of how she could live with the child of the scum of the earth, but now looking at that baby- she knows he is hers and Gods, and she has no idea how she could have ever lived with out him.

I don't know how I could live without him and I am just a friend of the family. I know I am probably not doing a very good job in comforting you, and I am sorry-- because I truly was trying too- I am just really bad at it.

I hope one day you become a great mother! I know you will, because you truly understand the value of not having such a precious gift infront of you.