At your age, it shouldn't matter. Your boyfriend won't have the experience to know the foolishness of being dishonest in a relationship -- if he's done it once, he'll probably do it again. Especially if you give him a pass this time. Make him pay, and he probably won't make the same mistake in the future.
Harsh, but that's how I see it.
A simple way to look at it is that if they say they're sorry AFTER they wrong you in some way, they're lying. If they truly didn't mean to hurt you, they wouldn't have done anything in the first place. They're just sorry they were caught. Drunken stupors excluded, of course. What you do while you're an alcohol-induced halfwit can usually be attributed to stupidity rather than malice.
Well we've been together for almost 2 years and are in love so this isn't really a typical 16-year-old relationship. And I don't know what you're trying to say. No one can ever be sorry for something they've done? - More than a year ago
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Apologizing after they're caught is only natural, but it still doesn't change the fact that the person didn't care enough about their significant other to refrain from hurting them in the first place. In my mind, this just means that they're only feel remorse because they were found out -- and by association, wouldn't be feeling remorse (and would still be doing whatever it is that they were doing) had they not been discovered. - More than a year ago
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What if they had been feeling remorse before they were caught out? Just too scared to bring it up? - More than a year ago
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If someone betrayed me in some way, I don't think I could ever look beyond that. I'm not a very forgiving person, and I NEVER forget. ;) You'll have to decide for yourself whether you want to or not; we can't do that for you. - More than a year ago
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I wasn't asking if I should forgive him, and I wasn't asking to hear "he's only sorry because he got caught". I was asking if there was a way to tell when someone was truly sorry. - More than a year ago
I would have to say he doesn't do it again. We all lie so we can't get too upset (it also depends on the situation of course). If he lied once about something small, I'd say make him pay so he knows you won't put up with it. He apologizes ok. But if it happens, again, think twice about him because he obviously wasn't sorry the first time, and most likely won't ever be sorry.
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