so, for some reason, I always have to have approval from other people about things. wether it's about an assignment in class, I always call them three or more times to recheck that I go tthe assignment right, when it's due, etc. I do it for everything and I don't know why. any advice?
Update: well, there are a few problems on how I might have explained it. I do start a conversation on how their day is going, and then I ask "hey, that thing is due friday right?", and then I ask someone else who's in my class the same time.
A month ago
Update: i don't know why, but it's just a nervous habit I've come to pick up. like, it's not like a completely ignore them the rest of the time or demand answers out of. I actually do talk to them and then put it in, I just ask multiple people the same question
A month ago
Like most people you focus too much on yourself. Try getting involved in some sort of project or club that takes you beyond your own day to day concerns. You'll quickly stop being so obsessive over minor details of your life and you'll also become a lot more interesting as a person.
Haha that sounds like me only now more with things like "Does this shirt look good?". And if no one is with me I can think about it forever whether it looks good or not. Anyway. Do you actually forget what people tell you or do you just want reassurance? If you are more "forgettful" get a planner and write down when things are due. Write it on post its and stick it to your assignments as well. Have you ever missed a deadline because you DIDN'T ask a friend? If not then just remind yourself that the world didn't end when you didn't ask about that assignment. Just try to rely on other forms of reminders. See what happens.
Im both. I think I know what's going on, but I just want to keep asking. I do try on other reminders, but I still need to ask people for some reason. but thanks though! - A month ago
Try calling a friend and discussing THEIR situation rather than focusing on the details of only your own immediate problems. The world is a big place. Try discussing what's going on such as the current financial collapse with people so that you get a perspective on just how important the details of that assignment are.
It's not an easy thing to get perspective, and you will have to invest some time and effort. Do you have a friend who seems to have a broader viewpoint, who spends a lot of time thinking about something other than themselves? Try spending more time with that person.
I don't think there's anything wrong at all with you, don't worry. You just need to get over yourself.
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When: A month ago
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