Why do girls like bad guys?

I have recently broken up with a said, "bad guy", he treated me great at first but over time he just used me. Now not only did my guy friends wonder why I let myself be treated like crap but so did my girl friends. Until about a week or two ago I had no idea, except for shallow reasons and then I realized that the reasons were way deeper and I wasn't aware of them. I realized that the reason I go for "the bad guy" was because I am not ready for a serious commitment, and with this guy I knew that I wasn't going to spend "forever" with him because he wasn't someone who was forever material.

I think that train of thought is comparable to most womens reasons for dating the bad guy. Have you ever noticed that nice guys say, "nice guys always finish last,"? Well that finishing last usually means getting the girl forever, unlike the bad guy, who probably like the woman isn't serious about the relationship in a forever way.

I say this keeping in mind that every person is very different so this is just a generalized thought/answer. It's also not just a personal experience its an observation of friends and random people. I hope that helps...

I married a nice guy--there are some who liek nice guys--but you have to be interesting. Nice and boring doesn't cut it. my hubby is nice but also a good person, with a lot to say and is passionate funny and kind--in other words, he is nice but also fun to be around.

We want people who are more than just nice--we like umph. besides, I think nice guys generally are too shy while bad boys seem confident. Women like a man who will make her feel safe and protected, not a guy who will get the snot beat out of him -- the allure of the bad guy is safety as well as passion and fun.

Would you want to be with a wet blanket?

But as woman and men mature, that changes. Young girls think bad boys are exciting until they get one then they are over it.

If nice guys could be funny and interesting with a bit of edge, they could get girls too....

Yes. They are sweet to you, but bad-ass to everyone else. It makes you feel extra-special. Plus, they leave you wanting more of their kindness...you begin to crave them. They'll protect you from anything and will stick up for you no matter what. Plus, they aren't clingy, needy, overly-sweet.

I like nice guys am I just different?

They are mysterious, they are more fun, they aren't clingy. They usually put up a chase and girls like chases.

It's not about being bad or treating women like crap, it's about being a challenge. "Nice guys" convey a lot of unattractive qualities usually so the guys that women often find themselves attracted to are the ones that have 3 women on speed dial, don't give a crap what you say, and are unaffected by your looks or attitude. Again, they're a challenge. Some nice guys that have had success with women can be attractive too, but they're far and few between. Basically the prom kings that were nice to everyone and were genuinely the best guys all around.

Think of it this way, there were more bullies in school than prom kings and everyone else wanted to be one of the two.