Why don't men acknowledge they have a child?

He could just be scared.. not ready for the responsibility he could be immature and feel that other things are more important like himself.... it could put a damper on his current relationship it could make him him feel obligated to be a father when he really does not want to be their are so many reasons facing his child then saying he does not want to be a father is way to hard for a guy wit even a little bit of heart so he would rather put it in the back of his head out of sight out of mind. their are so many things that could be reasons not good ones or even ones that make much sense.

All you can do if its your child is love them with all you have and do not worry about what he is doing cause that will just upset you more you do not need all that let it go he will regret it one day.

Simple he didn't want it like you do.


AlPiNe~

What if he didn't want to be a father in the first place? Be it that he wasn't ready, or that he didn't want to have a baby from a certain woman? Or that the woman hid it from him until it was too late for a morning after pill, or an abortion? Or she was simply trapping him into getting married by becoming pregnant, or she didn't let him know ever and on and on and on....

I am not saying this is related to your question, but my point is that your question doesn't clearly depicts what it is and what it is not and I cannot justify all these answers which pity the guy and make him the escape goat he might not be.

What then, if the woman goes to a sperm bank and gets herself fertilized. Would you still blame the father, or the donor? If against all the odds she decides to have the baby, she shouldn't blame the father and expect him to acknowledge the baby.

Because he's a jerk! No excuse for it! I don't know how men live with themselves when they do this; its so cruel to both the mother and the child.This happened to my fiance. She has a four-year old daughter. The child's father left her for another woman when she was three months pregnant. Just abandoned both of them! She had the child on her own. He has had no contact with his daughter, and treats her like she doesn't exist. What breaks your heart, is the little girl always asks about her Dad, and believes he loves her! She will be heartbroken later in life when she's old enough to understand. I hope that I can be a dad to her little girl when we get married!

Some men don't think it is their responsibility. Sure they had sex with you, but it's not their problem that you got pregnant, why should they have to pay for this mistake for the rest of their lives. Personally I think they are missing out on something by not being a part of the child's life. But some men think it's an option whether or not they acknowledge the child.

He's immature and running away from his responsibilities and the consequences of his actions.
If he's running away like that I'd let him, no woman who knows her worth or child would want a man like that in their lives no matter how hard it may be. It'd be harder if you kept trying to drag him back. My dad left my mum when I was born and as much as it hurt to know he didn't want to see me, I'm glad I didn't waste my time trying to build a relationship he didn't want to have.

I am one of those "neglected" children. I don't know why they do it, except when they do do it, they are cowards and irresponsible. Think of it this way, he doesn't want anything to do with the baby, so it's a good thing he isn't in the baby's life. Imagine he felt this way and was in the baby's life, NOT GOOD. I'd rather have a daddy that loves me, than one that doesn't love me. I was lucky enough to have a "dad", someone else who took care of me and loved me like a father, even when it was not his responsibility.

You should have rephrased your question to "Why don't SOME men acknowledge they have a child?" Sometimes people don't care what happens after they have sex. The consequences don't exist to them. He obviously doesn't care that he is a father and wants nothing to do with it. He's a cruel, irresponsible, and idiotic human being.