My boyfriend and I are taking a break to try and decide if we want to be together. We've been on break for a while and everything was fine and we're not getting back together as far as I can tell, but recently he's giving me really mixed signals...
When I call him or text him either he doesn't answer or doesn't return my text or he says very little. But when I leave him alone and don't speak to him for a few days he keeps calling and texting me and doesn't leave me alone until I call him back, which he then doesn't answer or says very little.
He's a very talkative person and he doesn't normally ignore people, and I told him I don't appreciate the way he's treating me that I feel like he only calls me when he wants something from me and then ignores me or treats me like crap the rest of the time. But he always responds really weird and defensive and says we're not together anymore and he doesn't have to call me everyday but that's not what I'm asking from him...
I just want everything to go back to normal again and for us just to go back to being friendly with each other, why is he acting like this?
thormoto45
(Age:25 to 29)
When: More than a year ago
I'm gonna say that he needs control and is comforted when you're calling him because he knows you haven't moved on. BY you calling and texting he doesn't have to say much because just by your acts alone he knows he feels important. Once you stop then he needs the attention and needs to know you still like him...but once you give him that attention then he knows he has it and it's back to the same ol circle.
It's not a fun game but I've done the same thing. Does he make you feel guilty alot too? That was always a move I used when doing this game. You just have to ignore him and let him move on so that way int time you can be normal friends again but it does take a long while and he'll probably say some very mean things so just be prepared. Good luck
I've been in a similar situation like that and I never understood it myself. Guys are confusing like that. All I can tell you is that he likes to feel wanted, the attention of you calling him and texting him makes him feel good in control. So he doesn't respond to make you go crazy and he knows that. He is playing games and doesn't really want to talk with you like before. he lost interest somehow so he's just messin with you.
when I realized what my ex was doing, I stopped calling him/texting him. I felt so much better after doing that. you do the same and move on. If he calls, don't answer. make him take a dose of his own medicine.
For control! Keep ignoring him even if he blows up your phone keep ignoring him for a few days answer MAYBE once and say VERY little if he questions you say " well we are not together and I do not have to answer to you" period. he just wants to do his own thing and keep you close so that he can keep tabs on what your doing call it a leash cause that is exactly what it is also a game. do not let him know he is making you feel like crap that is just giving him the satisfaction of knowing he is getting to you and if your busy feeling bad about him your not having fun or thinking about going out and possibly meeting other people. If you do not want or feel that you guys will get back together and after about 2 weeks of you doing these things back he does not realize what he has lost and get to his senses then break it off for good and get on with your life good luck girl!
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