Hi. First of all I must say I'm 23y old and I don't have a girlfriend yet, although I have many girl friends (note the space pls.). It's not because I don't like girls or because I didn't like them before, but because I wasn't really interested in that.
Now I think (feel) it's time to make a change in my life and have a girlfriend. But the problem is this: I don't want to have "a"(any) girlfriend. I'm not the type of boy that wants to have more girls from where to choose "the best for him". I just like to go for the one I have the crush. I had some crushes on some girls when I was younger, but, being quite shy and just a child, I didn't do anything, so those crushes just disappeared with time. Now I'm not that shy and I can express my feelings easier, and guess what: I do have a crush right now.
It's about a girl that I know and she knows me for a long time, but we didn't really talk too much at that time. We were classmates for 2 years (i was the new guy in the class) about 9-10 years ago. Then, we went to different highschools, different colleges and so we haven't met each other, but only very few times in the bus station. Recently I have met her on hi5, added her, got her yahoo id and we've spoken few times (she isn't often online on messenger). And that's not unusual. I've found more ex-classmates on hi5 and they don't use messenger often either.
The "unusual" thing is that now (instantly, bang! poof! etc.) I have a crush on this girl. And I have no idea about what to do about this. I have no "girls experience" so I don't know how to act, to tell her that I like her, and so on. I don't even know if she already has a boyfriend. And that wouldn't be a nice thing for me, you know...
I'm not so handsome or cool or smart, like other guys so I don't know what could possibly make her paying attention to me. She is smart and damn pretty (and she doesn't even use make-ups).
All we've talked on messenger were things like "how are you?" and stuff like that. She seemed to be glad to talk to me, but when i've asked her phone number (to talk more things there, considering that she doesn't use messenger too often) she refused to tell, saying "why you need my phone number? we can talk here (on YM); what use to consume your credit by calling me?"; well, that kinda messed me up; it wasn't like a punch in the face but more like a "Buddha's palm" into the face... so, I didn't insist on that anymore and changed the subject. The next time we've chat (that was about over a week), I invited her out to drink something, and she said neither yes or no; she said she was kinda busy studying for some exams and stuff like that and that she can't promise anything, but she thanked for the invitation. I told her that the invitation will be open until she has time for that. That was 2 weeks ago and haven't seen her online again.
And I would like to know your opinion, ideas, hints or tips are welcome. Thanks.
i don't know maybe I'm the weird one but I would probably react the same way. about the phone I'm just not a phone person, on chat you can think before typing and stuff.but on the phone you could say something wrong
as for the drinks I'm just not into that, especially as it's a first time thing, seems intimidating you should try something more 'friendly' like going to the arcade or something or to play tennis.
lol I just realised this question is 7 months old.but ye I searched up keywords looking for a same problem pretty much.
Ummm... Personally, I don't think she's interested. If she were, she would want your phone number and she would want to get a drink with you. Maybe she is hectic with exams and such, but maybe she just doesn't kow you well enough to want to do anything together. Maybe she's going out with someone. You should ask her this. Don't be afraid, just ask her straight up. And what to do next if she's not dating? Well, it's best if you leave her alone for a while. Maybe after one week start talking to her again and ask her when she is free. If she tells you Saturday, then that is when you should plan something. It's best to ask when she's free, so that you know that she can't have an excuse like, "I'm busy". If she still makes up excuses, give up. You are 23 and there are many other girls. Walk around in the mall and start talking to someone and see if you are interested. Just don't chase this one girl that is not into you.
Well I hate to put ya down like this but it sounds like she is not that interested... If she is let this one come to you anyways as far as a girl is concerned get out more and hang with people and your sure to get another crush fairly soon... when that happens you just have to be confident about who you are and talk just like you did to this one.... I understand why you may feel you were doing something wrong seeing her response but you were not that was just how she felt- get to know some girls and ask them like you did her without seeming to desperate or to available and be yourself but again and most important have WAY MORE CONFIDENCE in yourself saying your not so cool handsome etc etc proves you do not have much of that at all and that is unattractive It makes it harder because you do not have much experience but that will come the more you get out there and try you can do it just tell yourself over and over again that it is no big deal and you will have it in no time!
Sorry man, Sounds like you're screwed, or more importantly you're not gonna get screwed. My advice is just keep moving on, It's something I've always had to do, I hate it, but I just had to. that's how life went. And if you've seen kung-fu hustle(which is sounds like you have) you'd know that the Buddha's palm is very powerful when used by the right person. Personally, i'd take the punch in the face over the buhhda's palm.
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What pickup lines do you use to start a conversation with someone you are attracted to?
I think on my feet a lot and say what fits the time. A good way to start might be "Hey what's up? How are you doing?" I try and keep it on my side of the 50 yd line so I can attack and play offense a little more.
How do they typically respond?
Depends on the girl... Some think it's fine and others think I should be shot for it lmao but it just depends on the girl and what kind of personality they are into.
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