I just turned legal two weeks ago and I've been to 2 nightclubs since. I have to say, I was a little disappointed. It seemed like a lot of girls just brushed me off without even a moment's thought, it was like an instinct. Luckily, both time I found several nice, cool girls that just danced with me for a while and we had fun and all, but for some reason a lot of girls just rejected me out of nowhere. A few times I went up to a girl on the floor and asked her if I can join her, and the response was always a 'No'. (I realize it's not the best way to approach, but I'm still new at this so forgive me..)
I wasn't taken back by, but it just surprised me. Based on my (rookie) experience in two clubs (both of which are very popular Toronto clubs), I got the impression that a lot of girls just go there with their girl friends and just want to dance with them. Or are they just playing very hard to get?
I'd say about 50% I came up to and started dancing with, just ignored me and seemed like they're not there to meet new guys. So what do you girls (and guys) think about this, do girls usually go to a club in an attitude of "let's just have fun and be up for meeting anyone that seems cool"? Because that's how I was - I even chatted with some guys (I'm 100% straight) just because they were so much more open and sociable... I'm sorry , not trying to sound sexist, that was just my experience. :)
A lot just go to dance with friends, but some do go to meet guys. They might be too shy too let you approach, or they might be playing hard to get. The trick is to make them comfortable while standing out from the other jerks by being sweet and cute.
Steps:
1. Eye the girl you want to talk to.
2. When she meets your eyes, grin and walk up to her.
3. Say some cheesy, cute, and inoffensive pick-up line. It should be a little funny, at least.
4. Wait for a response like a grimace or giggle.
5. Say something like, Sorry, I know that was terrible I just needed an excuse to talk to you. Im Dean. Whats your name?
6. Talk about something you two have in common namely, clubbing. Ask her what she thinks of the music that's on, how she likes the club, what other clubs she likes.
7. The second she mentions another interest, ask her about it. This will keep the conversation going.
8. When you feel the conversation is at (NOT past, its better to be safe than sorry) its peak, ask her to dance.
Body language is important here. Look at her eyes, mirror her movements subtly, and act interested and nice.
Well usually I just go to clubs to hang out with my girlfriends and have a good time after a hard day's work, but I'm always open minded about meeting new people, so it just depends on the girl b/c most girls can be rude when responding to a guy, it just depends I guess. good luck
Well, sometimes women are just trying to blow off steam. They work hard all day and may just be with girlfriends to dance and hang out. Thats aid, I don't see why girls have to be rude--polite refusal is all that is necessary...
That is tough to answer. You see, some girls do go to meet new people and most just go to just hangout with the friends they already have. Yet, I think the two negatives are obvious..your approach probably was too bold...and you were probably trying too hard....In my opinion...I think you should do some scanning .and see if any of the girls locks gazes with you and..that would be slick. lol.
I go to clubs where I live....and everyone is looking over each other...a lot of times when I am interested in the guy...and he was into me...we would keep looking at each other...and the fun begins...girls love the mystery of the guy...keep that. Forward is mistaken as being cocky...which is unattractive...cocky and pride...two different things..good luck!
Well I don't think I was too bold/trying too hard.. one thing I didn't think about which actually seems pretty obvious is the eyeing each other method.. I never really looked for that. well better luck this weekend I hope :) - 11 months ago
Maybe you came off too strong when you approached the girls. Or maybe you just approached the wrong girls. It all depends on luck really. You're not going to find a nice dance partner the first time. If you do, then you're a lucky person. I think you should just give it some time. Maybe during your next few visits to the clubs you'll meet a girl how would love to dance with you. Keep your mind wide open and you'll find other people who have open minds as well. Good luck! And remember, you're going to the clubs to have fun.. A few rejections shouldn't get you down!
Yeah, that's what I kept telling myself, that it's all about luck. I was probably just lying to myself to make myself look better though :) anyway yeah I'll give it some time, it was still very fun regardless.. thanks! - 11 months ago
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No problem. Good luck! =D - 11 months ago
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