Sick of playing these games

As a woman, I'd never address the issue or take a long time to. Some how you found out that she liked you. The flirting may be a sign, depending on what you define as flirting. Women are typically not the pursuers. You are probably going to have to say something. At least you'll know if she just sees you as a friend or can see you as something more.

This is typically why men typically ask women for their number, ask her out on a date, or propose marriage. I have only tried to intiate a date once (failed) and I have never asked a guy for a relationship. I don't even call the guy I like a lot, because I am afraid that he will think I am too clingy and get scared off. We women over think things and I think we aren't built for rejection like men are.

I say that with the utmost respect for men. Men generally seem to handle rejection after rejection and still continue to ask us out, call us, date us, ask us to be in relationships, and propose marriage.

If you are waiting for her to do any of these things, you'll probably end up frustrating her before you ever get the chance.

Start out slow. Tell her something simple, like "I want to take you out on a date", and see how she responds to that. If she says, yes, then take some "baby steps" to the next date. If she doesn't take the opportunity to go out on a date with you then it means she just wants to be friends.

We are taught that that is the way it is supposed to be.

Hmm--interesting.

You say she "flirts heavily" with you. How heavily? Like, what does she do to flirt with you? Does the flirting make you uncomfortable? Or is it the fact that she likes you and you DON'T like her make you feel awkward?

Also, who told you that she liked you? How do you know she's not just being friendly, or a flirt?

Why don't you like her? Is it her personality? Or just her looks you don't like? Do you have a girlfriend already? That could also pose to be a problem.

Sorry for asking so many questions, but I just wanted to get more of a background story on this situation before I state my answer. I want to be fair! :-)

honestly, don't need to tell her anything unless! youve flirted with her and gave her the wrong impressions too.

it'll fade eventually. don't make a scene unless she does something revolting like kiss you.

if she is shy, she might not ever say anything to you. she might give up and move on, thinking you are clueless or don't like her back.

Yes, a lot of the time girls will just give up and move on, but if you know what's going on and never confront her about it, you could be at risk of losing your friendship with her. She's obviously crushing on you, and if you truly don't like her back, it's polite to let her down gently. Tell her in a quiet place where she won't be distracted, and most importantly, BE ALONE. She's not going to want to confess all of her feelings infront of any of her, or your friends. Just look her in the eye and tell her how you really feel. Yes, eye contact is important. Talking shyly with your head down won't say that you're shy. At worse, it will make it look like you're actually afraid of this girl, which won't end well and will make the girl feel a LOT worse than nessecary. Depending on what exactly she's doing (you say she "flirts heavily,") you may have to be more or less firm in your confrontation. You say you're shy, so this whole thing may sound daunting, but trust me, just do it. Both you and the girl will thank you later for it.

Just get some balls and tell the girl you don't like her. The worst that can happen is she doesn't talk to you. Move on!

I find it interesting that on most of the questions like this its usually the guy who likes someone and he's told by all the women to "grow some balls and tell her how he feels" yet when its the girl who likes a guy its still usually "the guy needs to grow some balls and either ask or not" lol