Me and this guy have been friends for 4 yrs. He is my best friend's cousin. We aren't allowed to date or hang out because of our families (long story). So I was in a 2 yr relationship with another guy and we broke up in July. I dated around but I couldn't stop thinking about the guy I'm not allowed to date.
So I texted him and he said that he would come over and we could have some beers and just talk about it. He came over like every day that week and just hung out. We did this for like a month and then his family was going to be out of town. He wanted me to stay over and we got really screwed up and had sex. Then he went back to college but we still talked for a few more weeks before he said that we almost got caught and he didn't want to deal with his fam catching us and bitching. So we stopped and I still hang out with his cousin and what not.
Well he got a girlfriend for about a month or so and then he cheated on her with me (I know very very bad!!). He broke up with her and we then started talking and had sex then we didn't talk for a few more weeks (mostly my fault). Well he texted me the other night and asked me how things were and what not... Then I spent the night out at his house with his cousin and we had sex when she was sleeping. Then he didn't talk much the next day. But then the next he was uber perky and kissing me and whatnot and we all went sledding and he drove my truck, I had a hundred bucks to fill my truck up but he did it for me and the bought beer.(his cousin and her b/f we with us).
We went back to their house and we managed to get away from everyone and he gave me a kiss good night and said see ya soon. The thing about this is he talks to other girls and hangs out with them. He said that when we can be together everything will be fine but until then he will hang out with other girls but he will always come back to me. I don't know what that means!?!
Unfortunately it looks like he's just keeping you on a line. Not necessarily just for sex, but as some sort of a safety net. He's hanging out with other girls, and insisting that its only until you can be together. Something's not right with that.
If he was completely into you and into you alone, he would not let the family problem stand in his way and he certainly would not talk about seeing other women. Also, ask yourself if the fact that you "can't be together" is factoring into your attraction to him or not. My guess is that it does have some affect.
The next thing to consider is what you really want. You may just want the same thing that he seems to want. Some call it friends with benefits, others call it casual sex, others call it just having fun and you may both just be looking for this.
Try to get a real dialogue about it and tell him what you want and not what each of you thinks the other wants to hear.
Sounds like he wants to see if he can get his family to change their opinion of the two of you dating. Until then he wants to see you but just wants to hang out.
In my opinion I feel like he is just using you for sex, I think that you should move on from him because I don't think that the situation your in right now will ever change and that's not healthy. I know that you think you like him or love him, whichever you perfer but start to date again and take it slow. If that doesn't work and if you still want to see this guy than maybe you should lay down some stuff and make sure he understands what your telling him, if he blows you off than you know that he was just in it for the sex and nothing else. Please don't make the mistake of assuming that he cares because if he doesn't, and I don't think he does, than that hurts.
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