Ok so this chick I was seeing for a few months was becoming a little distant. I eventually confronted her about it and said "I notice you are becoming distant, I think I am going to take a step back" She told me she would call me and she did She explained she wasn't ready to be in a relationship. I was like "ok that's cool I understand" then she was like silent didn't say much. Then the conversation kind of ended and she said "if I don't talk to you before the holiday have a good one"
So now I'm wondering. did she expect me to cry and ask WHY WHY WHY WHY? could she have been mad because I was just like "Ok, I understand"
Or is she just really not interested? We always seemed to have a good time up until then . I figured she might just need some space. I don't know. I plan on confronting her again.
Well first give her some space and try to be her friend. Girls can always use a friend. From what I know it seems that she doensn't know what she wants at the moment and needs to figure it out for herself before she can move on with her life. Give her till after the holidays and see where you two stand.
I talked to her on saturday... she said she wasn't ready for a relationship. I explained I was beginning to have feelings for her. But if she wasn't ready then I guess we wanted two different things. I asked her if she was ok with the idea of me seeing other people. She said she couldn't ask me to wait... (that confuses me)... I mean if I knew that we would eventually end up together I would wait, but that isn't certain. so what should I do? - 11 months ago
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Well maybe see someone else for awhile see how your heart feels about it and if it doesn't go well and she is ready to settle down go to her. I know women might be confusing but we don't know what we want most of the time either. - 11 months ago
Question Asker
Lol I get it.. I just get easily confused on whether the girl isn't interested or if they don't think I'm interested... so I usually let them know that I am, but at the same time I don't want to seem desperate. I'm not desperate and the last thing I want is someone to feel bad for me, or someone I feel bad for. that's a lowsy reason to be in a relationship. lol - 11 months ago
Answerer
Lol I know what your saying though. But a relationship is like a book. First time you read it you don't know what to expect. Everything is new and don't know how it will end. After a few times you been in a few relationship you get the hang of it and you know what to expect. The more you read the more comforable you are and see the joys of dating. I hope that didn't confuse you lol. - 11 months ago
Question Asker
Not at all that's good advice and I'm starting to understand what your are saying exactly - 11 months ago
Answerer
Okay good lol. Dating is supose to be hard if it was easy what would the fun of that be? I hope you had a great weekend - 11 months ago
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