I've known my friend for over 2 years now. I had to move because of Katrina for a few months and we met, I was only going to be there until December so I suppressed the crush and figured I would get over it. We both knew where we were going to school, and with home not being the same place and us always being so far apart I figured it would be best to not tell. It worked for a while. I still liked him but I moved on dated other people and such. Then this summer he was finally able to talk more often (he goes to the naval academy so knowing that I wouldn't get time because of this swayed me into my choice) We started talking all the time again and with other things that happened with both of us we got closer and needed each other more than ever. When it comes to girls he is very shy even though in everything else he is Mr. confident. I found out when I went to visit him about a month ago that apparently he acts very different around me. I hadn't thought there was anything there until his sister made a mistake and asked me if I was his girlfriend. I nicely explained that I wasn't and that he didn't have one. She said she was sorry but didn't know who else this mystery girl could be because he would never date someone else at the academy and it wasn't someone from back home. After talking to her and the week we both had I sent him a message and told him that he was a very good friend and I didn't know what I would do without him and that someone needed to tell him how great of a guy he was and how good of a friend and I told him that when we had met I though he was attractive and that anyone who had him as a friend was lucky. He sent me a message back and was surprisingly happy and said we should talk about it but he couldn't at the time. I sent it because he had people being stupid instead of being real friends---and I had had problems of my own that made me very happy to know that even if it was just one friend I had someone who wasn't always thinking of them self and cared about our friendship)
Then about a week ago I was talking to him right when they got into finals and he was his usual self. Then someone got on facebook and friended me - they went to school with him so I assumed it must be his friend and asked him who it was. All of a sudden his mood changed he got very jumpy and odd. He started telling me not to friend them and not to talk to them he even went as far as to tell me it was someone he knew I was disgusted with and would never talk to. I knew he was lying about it and told him I knew-he then was like haha I love that guy talk to him w/e gtg and left. I asked the friend(his roommate) why he was friending me, why now. He answered that my friend talks about you a lot and said it would be nice to be mutual friends - since then he hasn't said anything.
Any insight would be great - I don't want to push because of the situation but I don't want to pass something up that could be great, and I haven't been able to bring myself to just ask him how he feels.
The word "friend" seems to be synonymous with "nothing more than just friends", it's a good way to tell a guy that your not interested without hurting his feelings. Could be a mistake you made. And he also sounds jealous, and I think he does like you. I think at the moment he has decided that he should just give up on you cos he thinks you don't share his feelings and is trying to forget about ya. Contacting him would be better than doing nothing and confirming his doubts.
Yeah I mean we talk all the time- a whole lot considering the situation of him having to disappear for so much time and out of no where - like I went up there to see him in an effort to show I liked him but without being forceful or encroaching - 11 months ago
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