So you guys say we girls should approach you to say I like you...

You're a chicken.

Stop blaming biology.

I think we are more simular in mind than you think. The only thing is that biology is different and that causes the mind to be different and all those other things too. But when it comes to love both want the same thing. Don't look at the biology and say this is a guy thus he is like this or that but rather look at the person within. Every one should be couragous a fighter etc. and shouldn't only be subject to gender.

SOMETIMES women SHOULD ask, especially when they guy seems to be shy etc or not have the ehhhem BALLS to ask you. the stereotype is that guys ask out the girls, but there's also the stereotype that men who sleep around are studs and women who do are sluts. K, now that I got your attention, these are simply THAT, stereotypes.,.I say if you want something, go get it, forget the "rules:" just don't be needy or clingy

good luck!

You want to know the truth?

'Cause making the first move is hard. That's part of why guys want girls to do it and why girls want guys to do it. No one wants to stick their neck out and be the one rejected. All your "courage" and "manliness" and your "look how much I have to suffer for you" guilt trips are just pathetic, sad, and sexist rationalization for that.

What matters is that when one person knows what they want, they should make the move instead of getting all huffy and upset that no one sees how wonderful they are or how much they feel for the other person. Men aren't mind-readers, and women should stop expecting love to just fall into their lap without any effort on their part when they could just stop the whole pathetic dance of "will he or won't he notice me" by just asking -- especially when the guy has no idea there's a potential relationship there. Guys get really frustrated by that.

Alright guys, I'm taking the ladies side on this one!

You're definitely right on this one, it should be up to us to make it happen. You really do got it worse than us, not gonna argue there. =) It's our responsiblity to lead, make things happen, ask a girl out for instance, etc. . . Some guys just like it when a girl does the asking out part, just to take the load off of their shoulders.

This guy has been passive about it to say the least, try to not give up on him. Just wait to see how things come together (if they do) and go from there. =)

Pregnant. Housewives. OH GIVE ME A BREAK LOL :D That's such a stereotype. I doubt that's the real way of thinking about this. . . . Ok if its like this. . how about. . . uuh we men work our asses off to get well paid and support family. . . and do all the hard work in our kingdom. . . Need to rule the family and bla bla -_-'
In my opinion. . in the end this all doesn't count. . . Women and Men are equal.

This is same stereotype as in. . . Men are fighters and hunters. . . So they are not allowed to show emotions because then they would look weak. No romantic movies or softer music because then they fail. But then again. . . Is this familiar? . . ''Why my man can't show any emotions and soft side of his? He is so cold''. . . . or we might just go for ''He is way too soft, pff pussy''


Back to the question.

NO! There is no such thing as guys are the ones who should always approach and should be the leaders of the starting relationship . . . As in our only job is to make women feel comfortable. . . Then how about us?. . . Women and men are equal in every way. So women have the same responsibility as men do.

You like him. . . Take the charge of situation! He might just shy out at the moment.

Why are you bitter over small things? The point is that if you like a certain person of a certain gender does it really matter what are the stereotypes associated in people's mind regarding that gender? If you want something you go for it and you live for your own. Why does it even matter who has to ask the other out. Would you eat what others would want you to eat. Do you sleep only when others want you to sleep. Do you do the type of work that others want you to do. Forget all the ego shit and go with the flow. Just maintain a steady mental balance and some space so that you don't get hurt emotionally in any case. Live for yourself. Don't be bitter. talk to him more and if you see nothings happening forget it or ask him out. Do it for yourself.

I agree with you. It sounds good in theory, but honestly I think it makes the girl look more available and desperate than she should. I'm not saying play games with a guy and play hard to get, but if I have to make the first move and every move, maybe you don't like me as much as you should. Men and women are equal but we are different and that's why there are different relatonship mores between the sexes. I know a lot of people won't agree wiht me but who cares. I wouldn't want to date a guy that was too scared to talk to me anyway!

In your situation I think that he's not that into you. if he's not calling or asking you out and you've already showed interest in him don't make anymore moves and move on. You shouldn't have to approach him more than once, anymore than that and you'll look needy

Do the laundry? I don't think so!
I think its up to both sexes to make the effort to make the first move, or else there will be no babies!
Alot of people are shy and insecure beings and sometimes need a nudge or two, you'll know how many, depending how important he is to you.
You have nothing to lose, Good luck