So heres the story. I came home for the holidays around the middle of November. I saw this girl I knew from back in high school working at a coffee shop in town. So I talk to her, get her number, and go about my business. I call her up, we hang out, flirt, tease, all that delicious stuff you do before you know your gonna have sex with someone, yea. We see each other again, we kiss, and then start dating.
Everything is going great for the next few weeks, I thought I might have found me a new girlfriend, she looked promising. We didn't have sex and we still got off from each other. Anyway, here's the downfall of the question (I'm getting to it I promise). She is still in school at this time and I am not. She starts studying for finals and I understand, it's school it's work time, I leave her alone and tell her to call me whenever. well, 2 weeks go by and I give her a call. She acts standoffish and tells me that she's still busy. ok, fine, she never really told me when her finals were so I didn't know.
I wait another week, and I come to find out that finals at her school are done. I call her up and she doesn't want to hang out with me. I'm a little pissed at this point so I ask her whats the deal and she tells me her version of the "let's just be friends" crap. Here's the question. Why would she do this? She showed me no signs of anything that told me she was upset when we were hanging out.
I just want to know why if she was having such a good time being with me, and me not pressuring her about anything, would she not want to see me anymore?
It looks like she has other priority in her life at the moment... she's not that into you ... you are probably not what she is looking for or she just wanted some fun.. stop being such a chick about it .. let it go... probably nothing to do with you, I'm sure you have done something similar to chicks in your life, you are just probably not her type, cheer up.. you will get it one day.
Maybe she is crazy? lol she sounds it. I don't know what her issue is, but I would drop it and move on. Who wants to be with someone that crazy anyway?
You did the right things all along it seems. Until the very end.
See, she WASN'T your girlfriend. She was dating you, to have fun and figure out how much she liked you. Just like you were doing with her.
So she either made up her mind (and she's not that into you) or she met someone else that she prefers. Or maybe even decided against any relationships right now due to other pressures (like work or travel or school). It happens.
Either way, move on. I know it doesn't make you feel wonderful, but hey, that's what you would have done if you weren't into her, right?
Maybe it has someting to do with the fact that you think she's OBLIGATED to want to be your girlfriend, just because that's what you want. Kind of a strong sense of entitlement on your part, and shows lack of understanding of what other individuals rightly get to do.
But dude, it's not like you two were engaged, or even made any promises, or apparently were necessarily "exclusive. " So, don't play in the dating pool if you don't want to get splashed in the face a few times. Just don't take it personally; why want to be with someone who doesn't think your a match? Just find a better match elsewhere and don't become unwanted stalker guy.
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