ok..is it true that when a guy thinks a girl is pretty or he somewhat likes her he actually ignores her?..not in a bad way..for example..he'll talk to every girl in that class except for the one that sits behind him and tries to make conversation!...that girl is me. pppplllleeeaaaasssseeee guyyssss, explain! and when I mean doesn't speak, I'm being completely literal. he'll just stare at me when I talk to my friend that sits in front of me and she sits next to him.and she notices as well.
Yes, when people are young, they often stare from a distance but avoid actually talking to the person. He's terrified that you'll figure out that he likes you. Even though he wants you, he's too afraid of you rejectiing him. It would be too uncomfortable and painful for him, so he just avoids you, and he doesn't realize that by avoiding you, he makes it obvious that he likes you. Ahh the irony. If he's nice and cute, you could try breaking the ice by asking him questions and getting his opinion on random stuff. Guys are less mature than girls in general, so even if you're comfortable with prolonged eye contact, it doesn't mean he can handle it. He may not be assertive enough to make a move on you or ask you out, so if you are interested in a relationship with him, you will need to be really bold It's good practice for you to be the one taking the lead, and it will help him because he'll see how it's done. On the other hand, you might be too nervous to do anything also, in which case you'll end up hanging out and never making out! If you're 14 or under , or you live in a small town with very few guys, I'd say go for it. If you're older, or there are other guys around who interest you, I'd say go for someone who is as mature as you are.
Im 17..last year of highschool..and its only a one semester class. i know there are a lot more fish, but I don't wanna give up without talking to him, you know? he's in waterpolo, and I do talk about it infront of him, but he still doesn't get it. =( any advice since we're coming back to school from break? I can take it as a fresh start. I would appreciate it! - 10 months ago
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Second thoughts: You said he talks to every other girl, which could be a good sign or a bad sign. Are you geeky or social? If you're the most popular/hot girl he might be shy, but if you're the most nerdy/ugly girl, he might just be avoiding you The fact that he stares at you when you and your friend are talking could just mean he likes her and he's too shy to look at her. People often look at friends of people they are interested in because it's less scary. Ran out of text, to be continued: - 10 months ago
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Guys are THICK. You can't assume they get hints. Guys are socially about 2-4 years behind girls in high school. Girls talk laps around them and they don't even know what's being said. You have to make the convo happen, unless you're dating older guys (generally). You have to talk TO him, not around him. First off, ask how his break was. Ask open questions which don't have single answers, like "what do you think of..." Get physically closer or prolong eye contact when talking. To be cont.... - 10 months ago
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He may feel more relaxed when other people aren't around. Girls often initiate the first physical contact (friendly playful contact) because they're better at making it seem mostly innocent. If the guy likes it, he won't back away, he'll want to stay close. Try to find an opportunity to look at something he's working on, and lean on his desk next to him and lean on him a little, like touchhing elbows/shoudlers. It's friendly and innocent, you might do that with a close friend, right? TBC.... - 10 months ago
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If you treat him like he's a really close friend, i.e. be physically comfortable around/touching him, and are able to talk/joke with him in a relaxed way, then he will be more relaxed around you and he'll feel more free to show his feelings. If he pulls away when you lean against him (lean briefly, no more than what it takes for you to look at what he's doing and comment, remember less is better, leave him wanting more, flirting is about teasing like that) he might just be nervous, TBC - 10 months ago
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Cause sure it seems like if you're flirting with him, and he likes you, he should be able to flirt back, but some guys start out really embaressed about showing their feelings for a girl they like a lot. They can be free with their friends, and complete boltheads with a serious crush. Love chemicals flood the brain and make us dumb. Just make sure you get him to enjoy talking to you, as much as he does other people, before you try any physical hints.Take advantage of private moments with him. - 10 months ago
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And never forget, people love giving their opinion about stuff. Guys feel passionatly about something, get him on a roll and be a good listener. He may just not be sure how to talk to you, so help him to do it in a way that is easy for him. Some time when he's looking at you, look back with a smile. Not a huge smile, but a sort of cheeky smile, which says "I know what you're thinking, and I'm thinking that too." Don't do this if your friend is lalso ooking at you. That will make him nervous. - 10 months ago
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Don't snap your head at him, like you caught him. Do it smoothly and calmly. And don't look away once you've got eye contact, unless he looks away, or 10 seconds have gone by, or something demands your attention, like if someone says something to you. You may be trying to keep it discreet, like if there's other guys in the class, in which case you may want to limit it to less eyecontact time and pick moments when no one else seems to be looking in your direction.Borrow his pencil, eraser, paper - 10 months ago
He's probably been hurt before and doesn't want to go through it again. He needs to be coaxed out of his shell so he doesn't end up lonely for the rest of his life.
Sumfin's advice was brilliant. Just to echo it yes a guy will talk to every girl he doesn't like and not talk to the one he does like. Men are stupid. Even I can admit that. I get on very well with girls and am not particularly shy but if I really like someone I avoid them, if I do talk to them I say things that are totally ridiculous and end up looking like a complete and utter idiot lol hence the reason I don't speak to them. See? - STUPID :)
If you can make it clear you like him it will make it easier for him to talk to you. It helps removes the fear of rejection which is what basically makes us act like babbling morons. It needs to be made clear though, subtle hints just do not work. Essentially it's you that ends up risking the rejection but let's face it one of you has to have the balls to make the first move and it's usually the female... go figure lol
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