First I don't really know how to phrase the question, but basically I'm always the other girl.
OK, the history is the first guy I ever really liked: to me we were a couple. He would call me, flirt with me and we would go out. He knew I liked him. Then he publicly announces his love for his girlfriend (not me). Anyway, that whole episode broke my heart and I sort of isolated myself for a long time.
Later I met another guy and I thought OK he seems like a decent guy. Then I got a forwarded email from him containing the emails he sends to his girlfriend (not me). Then the latest one, we are close and Im also close to his family. And now guess what, next weekend I was asked out by him to go to the theater with him and his girlfriend... I think the most interesting was my friend who is guy. He told me that he cannot be my friend anymore because I may break up his relationship (for him I knew he had a gf so I was OK with that)
I just want to know why guys can use someone like that? Why am I never the girlfriend but always the other girl?
All I want is just one guy to be MY boyfriend. I didn't know they were not single and I will be a virgin for a long time. Why me?
Are you generally a risk taker? You may be unknowingly putting yourself into the friend category. It doesn't really seem like they're "cheating" if they're just hanging out with you. I don't think cheating is the right word if they're asking you to go to the movies with their girlfriend or telling some other girl they love someone in front of you.
When I say risk taker, I don't mean flirting and stuff like that, but will you let a guy know your intentions up front? Sounds like you're a cool chick that guys like hanging out with, but maybe you send signals that make them think you just want to be friends and they like having you around.
I guess the only way to avoid it is to ask a guy if he has a girlfriend right away. Let them know you've been the other girl before and don't want to be a home wrecker. Making light of it won't make your question seem so serious, but you'll have your answer right away :) Sending good, single guy vibes your way!
(Age:25 to 29)
When: 11 months ago
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