My girlfriend and I of 6 months went on a break 3 weeks ago. She suggested the break telling me I was broken, that she can't relationship wise, and that I needed a therapist she can't be there while I transitioned. Yes I had a horrible past but I am not broken, I'm getting my associates in C.J. soon I work etc. Guess I shouldn't have opened up to her? She lives with her parents and I would spend the weekend there. In the morning over coffee her mom would ask me all these questions, I felt I had no choice but to open up and be honest. My girlfriend said I should of avoided the questions. Now, I thought we mostly had a good relationship, we spent every weekend together, we had fun. But what I did wrong was when the weekend was over I would text her asking her in different ways why she wasn't affectionate with me but she can be affectionate with her family. I would wonder why she didn't go up to me ask me how I was but she would her family. I wondered why her brother could get her on the dance floor but not for me. She is quiet with me but will talk openly with her family. She has a thing about talking to new people she'll stutter sometimes. I do accept her as long as I know her quietness and lack of affection isn't towards me. So she didn't show affection first says she's just not affectionate but I see her showing affection with her family. She told me well texted she loved me everyday seemed happy enough and so the break wasn't expected at all. I am so in love, I'm 28 and this is my first time. Now I'm confused, we've seen one another twice since the break. We went to dinner and ended it with a kiss. She told me she wanted to take things slow. I asked if she missed me she said yes. I'm confused because everything is so different. She doesn't text me first? I text her and she texts me back, sometimes she is short and to the point and others she'll be a little nicer and ask how things are with me. She used to tell me good morning and now she doesn't. She doesn't text unless I text her and I don't know if I should point this out to her or not? Yesterday was our 6mo anniversary I text saying Happy 6mo of knowing one another and got no reply. Is she playing games with me? Once she told me I am predictable she knows how to make me mad and has done it on purpose to see if it would work. Should I not text her till she texts me but then I fear I'll lose her. I don't understand her at all. I said yesterday after she was short I guess you want me to leave you alone, she said your not bothering me just chilling. I asked her if me kissing her was out of line she avoided that question till she finally said, I don't think everything we do needs discussed we do it because we do. Sooo..I don't want to lose her but what should I do? Plz? Does anyone know why she's being this way. I did tell her things will never be the way they were, I apologized, I'm not texting her but to tell her how my day was n 2 ask how hers was. Plus I'm seeing a therapist weekly. I need suggestions on how to handle this.~So In love~
I'm not sure what's up with her, but I don't think you should be apologizing for your feelings. Although I do agree with her on not discussing every little thing. Like if kissing her were out of line she would have pushed you away or something, ya know?
It sounds like you're going through a lot so I think it would be in your best interest if you stopped texting her and focused on your mental health. I'm not saying you're crazy... but I mean sorting your feelings out and dealing with the issues you discuss with your therapist. Once you have "you" under control you'll be in a better position to deal with a relationship. Maybe things will work out, maybe they won't, but dwelling on it won't get you any further :) Follow her lead and take it slow. Everything will work out.
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