My husband never listens

Take a hard look at yourself. have you said or done something to push him away? have you changed your looks or personality in a way that may have spurned him? looking at yourself requires you to be honest too. if you can't think of anything, then maybe he's got something he can't deal with so he's withdrawing. nagging does no good, he'll only withdraw further. if he's just obsessed with video games, then maybe it's time for a figurative slap across the face that says, "pull your head out, start being a father and role model." too many women become criticism machines to the point where he can do no right. how you approach this is delicate, so think ahead. that way, he's not on the defense from the start when you bring it up.

You should get a large hammer and smash up the video game system before you do that write a letter and tell him to go to the other room and read it out loud....the letter should say how much you miss spending time with him and that if he wants for you to stay happy and not take it to the next level toward divorce then he needs to prioritize his love for you. He should be the one to change not you. He is childish to hide behind video games. And you should not have to bribe him with sex. Also maybe you guys can work out a weekly schedule for playing games if you decide you don't want to do the smashing thing.

Divorce shouldn't be an option for something like this. I've dealt with the same situation with my boyfriend of six years. It used to drive me nuts! I also tried playing the games with him, but he still wouldn't compromise with what I wanted him to do with me. Have you ever read the book "Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus", if you haven't I highly recommend it. It explains this very situation among couples, and what to do about it. Maybe your husband is having some issues and is using video games as a way of escape, or release of stress. Whatever the case may be, don't forget those vows you took, through thick and thin, and good times and in bad.

Can you arrange for a babysitter and make reservations at a restaurant or surprise him with dinner over candlelight (sexy lingerie won't hurt!) or something along those lines? Maybe he's "ignoring" you not because he doesn't care or doesn't want to spend time alone but because he's gotten a bit lazy or complacent with what he has. Also, what if you started playing video games too? Or do something else that he enjoys? Without knowing all the details it's hard to suggest that you take a step towards fixing this (maybe you've already taken a dozen steps and damn near fell off a cliff!). At any rate, I agree with rocket, it's not something to consider divorce over...you've got 4 years and a son invested in this...you can get through it, like she said.

I wouldn't consider divorce over something like that...cheating, sure...murder, yeah definitely, but ignoring? You know, as I type this (and after a few beers, I must admit) "ignoring" sounds similar to "ignorance"...maybe he's just ignorant to your feelings even if you have expressly told him in the past. You should "ignore" some of his needs for a while, see if that helps wake him up. But, you're married with a son...you've gone through hard times, I'm sure...you can get through this.