I'm seriously depressed....

Hey just know you aren't alone. There are plenty of people in the world who are or have gone through exactly what you are talking about. You need to do the following:

1. Stop focusing on what other people have. Focus on what other people don't have.

2. Think about what you can be grateful for. sure your family may look at you like you don't belong, but at least you are fortunate enough to have family.

3. forget your ex, there are plenty of people in the world and you have plenty of time. being single for a year or two is only a small fraction of your life. so don't worry.

4. Think about what you like to do in life. play sports? knit? paint? photograph? you must have some hobbies. then search out classes or clubs in your area that you can get involed with. Do you go to college? if so they probably have some activities you might be interested in.

5. Realize you may never be the most successful person in the world, but you may never be the most unsuccessful either. Help people less fortunate and give your life some meaning.

who knows maybe that's exactly why famous people tend to adopt so many children and contribute to charities, they probably have gone through the same sort of depression.

this may be a little late but remember, life could always get worse. My priest told me this quote that I live by: "Smile, you're still alive"

here's a website that I check every time I'm feeling down link

if people who have negative energy are around you affecting your life, you have to move as far away from them as you can, I know its probably easier said than done, but starting over someplace where nobody knows you could be what you need. Get a better life, meet better people.

aww that's so sad I get deperssed all the time and I to am in a lot of pain. I wish I could help I really do. the deperssion meds they have m on 25 or more in the lasy few year hasn't worked at all and some have made it worse. I'm a lone also and have no one to talk to. Just remeber your not alone and I'm sure somebody would love to love you again god bless and good luck ray

stop worrying about all that shit and start worrying about yourself. your life is what you make it. sure everyone feels lonely from time to time. stop living in the past and focus on the present. get up and move to the opposite side of the country? stop letting the past anchor you down. break those chains and take a leap of faith. and when you move get a job or two.. meet some new people. don't talk to these new people about your past talk to them about your future. get some goals and follow thru. and if you need to escape your family for awhile that is ok. trust me there is an entire world out there, so stop living in the .01% and start experiencing all life has to offer.

that's the best advice I can give you. good luck

that's nothing but an attack from the devil to try to get you away from God's will for your life... you can;t allow this to stop you.. Like I said, I been whar you been... you can't depend on people too much- they will always let you down... like in '07, after a series of unfortunate events, I found that all my friends were fairweather friends, and it caused me to backslide because I ddnt put my trust in God... Hun, I'm tellin ya, this is where you need to go and discover Him, it's a much better alternative than moping around, listening to the memories... I had a lot of the same scenarios play out bacc in the day. I had a very public, very disgusting break-up with a whorish girl (I was yung and dumb), I lost everything... I had the keys to the kingdom, I just ddnt know it... I really hope you get closer to Him, because he's waiting for you to come to Him.. no one else would say 'Cast all ur cares uopn me, for I care for you'- not ur boss, co-werkers, or ur ex-bf... Only Jesus can do that... I encourage you, as someone who know what it's like, to seek Him- it's not easy, because the crap is hitting the fan for you rite now, but you will find out lotsa things about yourself, and most importantly, how to trust Him when hard times come, and they do come a lot...

trust me, ur not alone. I went through that- attempted suicide twice wen I was 20... I thought my world had came down... the best way to come out of this is to get busy- do things that take the focus off yourself. Help others and get involved with people. For me, Christianity was the way out... God made ways for me I didn't know existed. Don't know if ur a person of any faith, but God was my way out (I was a satanist wen I tried to off myself). Try Him. He will never leave you, or forsake you. I know those feelings you have all too well. I grew up a lot like that. Didn't have many friends, kept to myself, it's not fun. You have ur whole life ahead of you. You will come out of this. You will get thru this. Life comes and goes in circles... When you get around my age, you will see what I'm talking about. Just refuse to listen to those lies swirling in ur head! This is a test of ur very spirit, don't let yourself down. Life is worth living!

I go through life the same way, but I don't think I could ever commit suicide even tho I've thought about it. If you think about it you wouldn't be doing anybody a favor ending your life, and while we are still alive we can still change things or at least try and find alternatives to find something to make us happy, to me the opposite of suicide is finding one or more people to help and thus make you feel worthy of yourself. Also like others said here you don't live in a 3rd world country where people have no rights and they try and survive everyday without food or water, remmember you are lucky just by living in health and shelter, the rest is all psychological.

If you ever feel like venting or trying to figure out life, you can message me.

if you need someone to talk to here's my myspace url myspace.com/homerj18

i can some what understand what ur going threw difficult times and you say to yourself how much worse can it get, but remeber one thing ur still alive and life does go on

You still got both your arms and legs? You live in a country like Iraq or Afghanistan where people and their whole families are slaughtered everday? If your a healthy person who sleeps safe at night then you need to stop crying, toughen up and get off your ass and do something with your life. Your only as miserable as you want to be. You have to be the reason behind the changes that yout want in your life- J Times are rough and you got a case of the blues. So what? It'll pass and you keep going. It's what we do. It's who we are, and your not as alone as you think you are. You can do it.

Let's start with the basics. OK? Firstly, you have a computer, because you are able to log on here and have this conversation. So, you got that going for you. Don't laugh. There are people in the U.S. who don't even have electricity I.E.: many families and Americans living in Appalachia, etc.

Second, you said you have no friends. WRONG! You have one right here in me. Seriously.

Also, judging from your penmanship here, you are able to put words together in order to form a proper sentence. That's a lot more than I say for at least 90 percent of other people on this liserv.

And, about suicide. Totally stupid concept, really. Think about it. So you have thoughts of ending your life. What's the point in that? Really? Just to give up? Why? When there is so much to live for? You want some examples? OK, here goes:

You say your family looks at you like you don't belong. Well, you have a family. How many kids who grow up in broken homes end up in the care of the state because their families are too caught up in drugs or others things that they don't 'have time to take care of their offspring? What kind of future do these kids have? Probably not one where they are able to own a computer and log in to a forum such as this and talk to other people about their problems -- right? They might be lucky just to survive on the streets, or may even find themselves in and out of prison because they don't know any other way to live.

You mentioned your boyfriend broke up with you recently. Well, OK. That happens. It's inevitable. People change. I don't know where you live, but I live in California. Here, the divorce rate is upward of 70 percent, and marriages -- heterosexual -- run somewhere in the 50-55 percentile, as opposed to those who do not marry. You know what that means? Yep, you got it. The divorce rate is higher than that of those who are "in love." Sad, really, huh? So, nothing lasts forever. And we're talking about a group of people who were devoted enough to take vows of spending their entire lives together.

One last point: Why do you think you are worthless? You must believe you are of some worth if you were willing to put yourself out here like this. You see, self-worth is only in the eye of the beholder -- you. I find it hard to believe that other people in your life find you worthless. You want me to give you a neat little saying that I make sure I repeat to myself at least twice a day? OK, here goes:

YOU ARE NOT YOUR THOUGHTS.

You know what that means? It means that, just because you may feel you are worthless doesn't mean it is true. IT JUST MEANS THAT YOU THINK THAT.

You see what I mean? How ridiculous is that? It's actually funny when you think about it. Right?
That's all I have to say right now, but do me a favor, OK? Talking about suicide is a very serious thing. If you are having these feelings, please talk to someone you trust about it. It's worth the time. Take care ...

You can get therapy, or medication maybe. It's important to fix the problems that can be fixed in your life, and as for the one's that can't, just let time take care of them.

well, what I would do is trying to talk to someone bout this like that is making you feel this way and see if it gets any better. or just go to a therapist.

I know this is a little late but I really truly understand how you feel. I'm a teen and the same thing happened 2 me:L I'm depressed and don't know what to do 0.o I'm an A student and athelete of the yr. I feel sad most time, cry often, hav hard time falling asleep and sleep laye, I've lost some apettite and used to weigh 111 but now its 109. I don't worry about my wieghed as long ad I'm fit. I don't know y I'm losing apettite and try my best to eat. My friends know my parents are divorced but they don't know I'm depresed. I'm afraid to tell say how I feel. I haven't had the guts 2 tell any, and my friends think me as preppy but I migh b emo I'm not sure because I don't cut myself or anyhting but I do think of death here and there but wudnt comitt suicide. My friends say I'm preppy but they don't know me well, I changed skools 2 years ago and they haven't met the real me because think I'm "too" happy but I just act lyk thatt becuz I wish I didn't feel sad but the loneliness dusnt go away. Not even my BFF knows how I feel. :L I experienced something lyk you but a little different. I took cousoling @ my old skool but it didn't help me. I don't know what to do can you give me any advice? I do my best to keep up with the facade but it's hard for me to keep everything bottled up. I feel lyk I'm missin something and can't find it0.o

you have a couple options...you may have cyclicle depression, just meaning it keeps coming back. so go talk to someone. if your not against medication than maybe try something temporarily until you get out of the slump. whether on medication or not you have to excercise. sounds silly, but I have depression and it is the single thing you can do to become happier and feel stronger and self-reliant and sturdy.

then when your out of it you'll see so many improvements you won't feel so bad and itll be less likely to come back. you have to be strong though to pull yourself out of it and that means going running, or even walking when youd rather just lay in bed and cry. just do it. it WILL get better. once you realise these feelings are temporary and know that every positive step you take is making you better, you will feel much better about yourself...just make sure you try...and don't let yourself give in to the self pity stuff too much, or the depression wins

I wanna give you advice I really, really do but...I read your stuff and almost feel like it's me (with a few edits here and there). I'm at that point now where I kinda feel if somone shot me or if I got into a fatal car accident...I wouldn't care, it would take me out of my misery.

I mean I am here for you, heh maybe that'll help, just talking to each other. I don't know but I empathize with you completely.

first of all, if you are not happy with yourself... .then change things so that you are happy with yourself... so that you think you do deserve a good career and a good life... your first step was admitting that you are depressed and that you know you have a problem and that you need help. You need to find a local councilor or a school councilor you can talk to about it. I was in the same position a few years ago... Right now you need to quit worrying about what your ex thinks and your family thinks about you... or anybody else for that matter... you need to focus on you and your happiness... you need to talk to a counciler... please. I am here anytime you need to talk.

girl you need to talk to a professional about ur feelings. you can't just hold them in and you can't keep having these negative thoughts. I have been diagnosed before with depression and trust me, talking to someone about it really helps. they help you realize who you really are and mostly they are there to listen and that's mostly wut a person needs when they are depressed is someone who is willing to put all their attention towards you when you need it the most. cheer up. be happy for the things you have in life and the opportunities you have. compare your life to others that may not have it as good as you. even thought you think you might have it bad, there is always someone out there that has it worse.

first and foremost, what your dad did was f***ed up. he made that mistake and he messed things up. I wouldn't even lose faith in God over that, I would probably call on him more to help me forgive something like that and for him to help my mother get through her problems as well. I think a lot of people turn their backs on God whenever a human makes a mistake like God is Mr. Fix-It. That's not the way it works, ya know? The fact that He gives you the ability to heal and get over things is a gift. It doesn't happen over night because He can't just put a band aid over bullet wounds, you have to allow it to truly heal over time. That's just my religious perspective right there, haha.

Anyway, you need to drop the boyfriend if he's making you feel like shit. Change what you do have control over. Look for another job elsewhere why you're at this one. When you get one, leave and work in the new environment. You might need a change of space. Or, if you could, talk to a boss maybe and see areas that you need improvement in. Try and work it out if you have a good job. The effort should definitely feel appreciated.

Your family might be having a hard time since your dad f***ed up, so they may all just have heightened and sensitive emotions, like you, and be lashing out just to distract themselves from the pain and stress of it all. it's unfortunate that it seems directed at you, but focus on work and yourself and maybe you won't have to hear half of it.

You need to talk to a counselor at school or in your neighborhood. You cannot live like that. Whatever you're going through right now is going to pass. I know it seems impossible, but it will. You can't brush your feelings aside, you have to confront them head on. I know that when I was going through some crazy shit myself, it helped a lot to go to therapy at my university. It's always awkward and embarrassing at first but they really do listen and want to help you. It's such a relief, especially when you don't have anybody to talk to. Besides, you don't have to see these people in the street everyday. It's like confessing everything to a stranger. There's nothing they can say or do to judge you really. When you're talking to a friend, it's a little harder 'cause you're worried about what they'll think.

Honestly, go and talk to a therapist. It got me through something I thought I'd never see the end of. I was hurting a lot and I felt completely overwhelmed. I'm a lot better now. You really do feel so much lighter every time you go because they don't interrupt or ask you how you feel. They just listen. Sometimes that's all you really need. I hope you take my advice. Your life is so worth living. You're really worth it, so make the effort!

I am SO sorry, sweetie! :( I know EXACTLY what you're going through, and I know how much it sucks. I've been trying to figure oute what's wrong with me too, lately, and I've read a couple of self help books that give a lot of answers. The one I am reading now is called "Change your brain, change your life" by Daniel G. Amen, M.D. If a part of our brain is over/under active (something that is obviously not our fault) it could cause depression. Try reading the book, and maybe you would be interested in seeing a doctor about it. If you go to a good doctor, who understands it, have them do this thing called a SPECT study on you- where they take some pictures of your brain and see where the problem is. Once they see where the problem is, they can give you the right medication for you. Not just any random doctor/counselor/psychiatrist who could just be like "well here have this medicine you have depression". With a SPECT study you see exactly where the problem is and get exactly the right medication and advice for your needs. Also, read the book for great advice! Another amazing, life changing, book is "The power of your subconscious mind" by Dr. Joseph Murphy. You won't believe it its just extraordinary and its amazing to find out how much power you really have over life. If you need ANY help or advice ever, please feel free to message me! I have been struggling with depression too and finding out ways that help. Best of luck to you girl! And remember, its never too late to start living the way you want to.

My first thought and best advice I can give you is see a professional - a counseller, your doctor or anyone who you can trust and are in a better position to help you. You made a great step already by acknowledging how you are feeling and actively seeking help, though all we can do is support you. With a professional they can help you really find and understand the cause of your depression and help you treat it, whether that be by medication, talking, confidence and self esteem exercises and so on. I know it can seem daunting at the beginning but it can really help you get things into focus and getting your emotions and life back on track. If you feel that at the moment you would like to try to break the cycle yourself first, change it. Changing your point of view, seeing things in a different light sometimes might seem hard but it can actually do wonders. Do something that makes you feel good about yourself, whether that's getting a make over, starting a new course or hobbie that you're really interested in, go out and socialise with people who share the same interests as you, get some self help books and keep telling yourself positive affirminations, it might feel silly at first standing in front of a mirror and saying good things about yourself, especially if you don't really believe it but if you do it, eventually you will begin to believe in yourself again and the strength that you have inside that you can get through this.

First I won't to start off by saying I'm sorry for what you're going through. I knw I might not even have the slightest clue of what you're going through, but I can understand how you feel. Its ok to feel hurt and sad when life becomes a little too much for you. At some point this happens to eveyone. However, IT DOESN'T ALWAYS LAST. If you were a happy-go-lucky person before, I'm sure you will be back to your normal self in a matter of time. The process of getting there is what may seem harder and cause you more pain than anything else. Unfortunately from what you've said, You can't really look to family for support. I don't knw your religious affiliation or anything but when Life brings me down I seek God first when eveyone else abandons me. If you're not open to this suggestion perhaps you could write down your feelings in a diary or journal. There is hope so don't give up. YOU WILL SURVIVE! And as far as your boyfriend goes, if he can't be there for you during hard times, then he doesn't deserve you during your best times. After all, who wants a whimpy Boyfriend, right? lol