The Heartache of the Lost

Simply be a good friend to her. Stay in regular contact. Take her to lunch or a movie occasionally, simply to change her routine.

There's nothing else you can do. She needs time to grieve, and we all handle it differently. She needs to cry, to get angry, etc. Eventually she'll come to terms with it.

I lost my mother, hence my children lost their grandmother and didn't go back to school.. it had a major affect on them. Many people are scared to approach you once this happens, but let me tell you, that is the last thing you should do is be scared to approach... that is when they need you the most, if they need time alone they will say also, but if you can be there as a friend, do it... Many of our friends disappeared altogether, this is not uncommon and its cruel... go for it, just call every day even if its for five minutes, ask if they need anything, and just be there to listen. You may hear things you may not want to, but just listen anyway, they truly do need support at this time. Its great to see such concern :)