OK how do I know when a guy is going out with someone but is also talking to me, like flirting and teasing and stuff like that? I have known him for about 3 years and I knew before he was interested in me, but nothing happened, now I don't see him that often because he moved like an hour away from where I live, but we do talk on the phone and text message.... we flirt and tease, and he told me he wanted to make something happen with me... I don't know if he meant just sex or relationship?
I do have to mention thou that we have talked about sex, what he likes and stuff like that... and he even said that he wanted to hear me moan and say his name....... I know that it might seem like he just want sex, but that sentence "I 'm not looking for a one night stand, but I want to make something happen with you" just have me thinking about what he really means and his real intentions with me.
He is really cute, so I don't think he would have any problems finding a girl, but seems he leaves so far from me, I don't know if he is talking to another girl... please help... thank you
What I see is that you have always gotten along well with him. For most guys, myself included, I have to find a girl physically attractive to hang out with her. That doesn't mean I want to date her, but if I find her unattractive then I won't spend time with her. [In truth, I apply this rule to all my friends, but anyway.]
With him being farther away, it seems like he has more room to have a relationship with you without getting caught. When you're in the same area, his girlfriend or one of her friends could run into you, particularly if the group has favorite areas to hang and he's short-sighted enough to go to one of those. But out of town is kind of like a business trip - cuts down on the planning needed. So it makes sense to me that he'd be more interested now because a) easier to go out and b) less chance of you encountering his girlfriend.
"I'm not looking for a one night stand, but I want to make something happen with you." That strikes me as the old Shakespearian "thou dost protest too much." Why does he need to clarify that he isn't looking for a one-night stand? It's reverse psychology, trying to say he doesn't want something when he does.
Thank you for your opinion. Regarding the "line" he gave me, he clarified that because I was the one telling him that I wasn't that kind of a person and he said he knew and that he wasn't looking for that. He told me he has known me for 3 years and he knows - 10 months ago
"I'm not looking for a one night stand, but I want to make something happen with you." That's just a pick-up line. He likes you more now because you're far enough way for him to get away with it.
"I'm not looking for a one night stand, but I want to make something happen with you" seems to me like it could mean nearly anything. One night stand being the lowest. I know, I know, he said he didn't, and maybe he almost even believed himself on that one, if that was the case.
But he could want a relationship, or he could just want a steady amount of casual sex. An hour is nothing to a guy, if they can get sex out of it. As for talking to another girl, he might be talking to any number of other girls, possibly promising the same things. It just didn't ring true to me. But it's also perfectly possible (since as I am not an average guy, I can't always see into average guys' intentions,) that he really wants something from you, and is not talking to other girls. I would believe that, too.
(Age:25 to 29)
When: 10 months ago
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