I'm in like with this girl in one of my classes. I've been told in the past that she liked me too! We use to talk but now she doesn't talk to me anymore or look at me and she avoids me in the halls sometimes I hear her tell her friends "Lets go I don't want to be here" or she walks away by herself.. (that was after her friends told me she had a crush on me!) I thought she liked me but now I'm kinda unsure because every time I "just happen" to look at her she's starring at another girl sometimes she looks at me (when she thinks I'm not looking but mostly I notice her looking at another girl! [It's mostly an all girl class and only 3 other guys in there.]
Sometimes when girls walk pass her table it looks like she's starring at their "butts" and not a quick look either it's right up until they get out of site and or sit down! Sometimes I try and find something to talk about with her but she ALWAYS pretends that she didn't hear me. I've even tried to get her attention physically but she acts like she can't feel me tapping her shoulder whatever [Not once has she answered anything I've asked her since her friends told me she liked me!]
And I sometimes wave at her in the hallways but she doesn't wave back she pretends like she didn't see me instead! Does it sound like she might be over me and /or be a lesbian? Should I move on? Or am I just thinking so hard that I'm seeing things? or think she's trying to make me jealous by flirting with a girl???
Flirting with a girl to make you jealous? WTH? she might be scared to talk to you and is afraid to be near you or maybe she gets speechless when she walk past you! Lesbian? I highly doubt it if all this happened after she started liking you! Have you sat by her or something close to her for longer than a few minutes {a whole class block]to see her reaction! Because if she's like me she'll get really antsy or uncomfortable then she probably still likes you because I get like this when I'm around a guy I like or I stop talking!
So you think that she likes me but she freezes whenever she sees me? and I should ask for a table change to sit by her for a day and see what she does? - 10 months ago
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Yeah - 10 months ago
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Thanks! I saw her at the movies last nite and she said almost the same thing you said except for she said being around me made her feel weird and it was awkward talking to me, and she didn't realize it. I talked to her when her friends left to get popcorn. - 10 months ago
Maybe she is shy and a little upset that her friend told you she had a crush. Maybe she is checking out other girls to see how she compares. She could be self conscience about herself. Yes, move on or ask her out. Either way, I don't think she is a lesbian.
As the book reads "He's just not into you" The bottom line is that you know whether or not a women is into you. Don't just assume because she doesn't like you that she is a lesbian. That is a polar opposite of not liking you. If she was a lesbian it wouldn't be an option to date her in the beginning. So to answer your question she just doesn't like you and move on.
Moving on was the best case scenario here because were going out now. But I won't assume a girls lesbian anymore for things like that. thanks anyway! - 10 months ago
Talking to her when she's by her self Would be a good idea! Don't assume she's a lesbian. Because maybe she is looking at other girls to see if she looks normal like other girls!
Our behaviors are usually odd I used to that too stare at them until they were out of sight but me...I wasn't checking the girls out what I was doing was looking at how they were dressed - are they better than me, do they have better styles or better bodies, is their butt nicer than mine...that's what I usually thought when I looked at girls but that doesn't define me as a lesbian, I think it would define me as an amateur who is self-conscious and people used to think - in high school that I was a lesbian too, but I also dressed as a tomboy - maybe that's what she thinks or the thing may be is that maybe just maybe she's trying to figure out her sexual orientation, or she's self-conscious of how she looks many girls stare at other girls for those reasons - just like I did.
Or - did you ever think that maybe someone said something to her about you? Like - either you said something bad about her and someone told her that or maybe she might have heard someone say something about you that she didn't like? Or maybe there's something bothering her - that she wants to get off her chest but she can't find the words how to do that - I would try to talk to her somehow or someway, maybe follow her after school and confront her - not stalk her, she'll get scared just catch her after school and ask her what's going on? Try to do something like that, Good Luck!
What would I say or should I way??? But she doesn't doesn't wear baggy tomboy clothes! I've never heard anyone say she was or the thought she was a lesbian!I hope its just the self conscious thing though! - 10 months ago
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Listen I'm here to listen to whatever it is you want to say that's bothering you? da best thing is to confront her n ask y r you ignoring me n please I'm willing to listen? hope this helps but dats wat I would want a guy to tell me - hope this helps. - 10 months ago
But dats the thing girls r pain in da ass but wen you give up on us we feel as we don't matter to you maybe she wants attention or maybe she wants someone to listen? - 10 months ago
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Sure, but if you're ignoring me then I'm going to worry about my own feelings before yours. - 10 months ago
I agree but if you like her that much if you think she's worth it wouldn't you do anything to get her attention? - 10 months ago
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I would and have in the past and it totally 100% did not help. I've given up on the idea that you can convince a girl to like you by being swell. So now if I get a bad response I shrug my shoulders and move on. - 10 months ago
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So basically what you two are saying is it's a 50/ 50 chance that she either wants my attention or doesn't like me and I should move on? - 10 months ago
Yea but still just try what I said n if I'm wrong dan I guess I'm da only girl who wants a guy to actually listen to her - tell me dis wat is it in ur heart that you feel that you wanna do? look deep down n don't tell me I dunno - 10 months ago
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Ok thaks! - 10 months ago
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I'm saying the odds are much lower and if I could give younger me advice one thing I would say is - "Mr. Sexy, don't get caught up on a girl that isn't responding. Move on - don't dig your own grave and jump in." Ignoring her is your best shot anyway. - 10 months ago
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I think comforting her would be better at least once when she's by herself. but thanks anyway! - 10 months ago
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Ultimately that's your call. Good luck. - 10 months ago
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