I used to date this guy a long time ago. We only went out for a short period of time but stayed friends. He's hot and cold. Like one minute he would want to get back together, the next he would ignore me, the next he would try to be friends, next minute he would be talking shit about me...
I never had strong feelings for him so when he would be in and out of my life I almost didn't notice! We also never had sex either. He ended up getting really mad once when I told him that I would never have sex with him. I never led him on or made him think that I would..I was really surprised that he would even think he had a chance. Well he got so mad that he started crap talking me and tried to publicly embarrass me. He is kind of the verbally abusive type of guy.
I know for a fact that he says something to any guy I'm talking to. I think he tries to cockblock me or something. He makes up rumors about me and tells people we had sex when we never have. IDK what else he has told people. He gossips mostly to people who know who I am, but I don't talk to.
I don't see him as much since graduating high school, but whenever I do see him he tries to be super nice to me and acts like he's interested in getting back together (like there ever was an us in the first place!)
I'm kind of flattered that he obviously still thinks of me after almost 5 years, but it's kind of creepy. Most normal people don't act like this so what do you think his problem is?
No, he doesn't have a mental problem, he has a commitment problem. His behavior as far as gossiping about you shows that he's interested in you, yet he doesn't know how to act. He feels resentful toward you because you didn't have sex with him and didn't give him the attention that he wanted. So he releases his anger by mental abuse. This guy certainly has issues and is really immature, I wouldn't recommend to associate with him even if sometimes he seems cool he can still flip out. Don't waste you time and don't think that you can change him since he's already stuck in his ways. You seem like an intelligent individual with a lot going for you. Like Beyonce said, "To the left, to the left".
He doesn't have a mental problem, it's just this thing in some guys...i had a problem like yours with my ex but he stopped it after 2 years. i think they get too mad when they get rejected. actually so mad that they just can't forget it. but this guy seems to be kind of a baggage person too. don't worry,sooner or later he'll stop. just keep ignoring him:p that's what I did to stop my ex GOOL LUCK
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