Hi I've been dating this guy for a about 6-7 months and he normally comes over and hangs out with me and my 4 kids playing video games or watching movies. The thing is we would like to be alone sometimes but the kids want to stay home, yes stay home with us. My kids are 18,16,14,9. My oldest has a boyfriend who comes over and there is another kid to hang out. (omg!) Help!!
How do I tell them we want to be alone, to do "adult stuff"? any help is help... When ever we say we are going to go somewhere they're like ok we will get ready. so it's hard to tell them they cannot come. And even harder to explain why with out really explaining why. Sneaking around is cool for kids, but now it's becoming annoying... any ideas..
You don't tell them you want to be alone for adult stuff. I'd say you should either go to his place (I'm sure they can handle one night without their mother at their age) or find a way to keep your children occupied.
It sounds like they are kind of possessive of their Mom. The teenagers should know better. You could just sit them down and tell them the truth; that you love them dearly, but want to spend some time alone with your boyfriend. You can still do family things together, but just not all the time.
They are old enough to understand this reasoning. Being alone sometimes with your boyfriend is not abandoning them!
That's what kids are like at that age. You just got yourself into too much there. You will be lucky to get all of them out of the house at once, so all I can suggest is going somewhere else yourself.
You are their mother firstly, so you make and break the rules, your children, especially if they are teenagers are probably very in tuned to what you two are planing on doing and that might be why the are acting like that, you must set the rules and remind your children that you are also human and that you want to spend alone time with your boyfriend too since you have a right to your own privacy, they don't need to know what or why, they just need to know that you want to spend some quality time with your boyfriend, drop them off by a movie, or to some friends and then enjoy your time you and your boyfriend can get out of that and if they refuse to go out of the house, tell them to stay at home and you two can go out to somewhere and do whatever you want.
Unless you have a good friend or relative they can stay with or that will entertain them, you may have to do what my aunt did. I was 20 at the time, she was divorced and dating, my cousins were maybe 15 and 10(?). She would ask me to hang out/baby sit them, and would give me maybe $50-60 to do it. That would cover gas, food, and movie tickets (we would go to the mall or order pizza at my parent's house, and then go see a movie, and were done usually by 10pm), while she was out on her dates. I would keep what was left over. Try giving the oldest (especially if she can drive) and her boyfriend that job, and whatever they don't spend she can keep. Good luck!
Have the 9 and 14 year old go out with the aunt shopping? Or if boys have them go to the grandmothers or someone house to play with the neighbors. the 18 year old can go over her boyfriends house. and the 16 year old can go out with some of her friends and spend the night. So you have the night to yourself and your boyfriend.
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