Girls you will want to read this. This was an eye opener for me and was taken from Web MD
I can now understand men a whole lot more after reading this, how they think and feel.
When sociologists ask 'How often do you think about sex?' the responses show pretty dramatic differences between men and women," says Laumann. "The majority of males between 18-to-59 of the U.S. population report that they think about sex at least once a day -- one third think of it several times a day. Only 25% of females report thinking about it every day," Laumann says.
Men and women travel slightly different paths to arrive at sexual desire. "I hear women say in my office that desire originates much more between the ears than between the legs," says Perel. "For women there is a need for a plot -- hence the romance novel. It is more about the anticipation, how you get there -- it is the longing that is the fuel for desire," Perel says.
Men, on the other hand, don't need to have nearly as much imagination, Perel says, since sex is simpler and more straightforward for them.
That does not mean that men do not seek intimacy, love and connection in a relationship --- they do, just as women do. They just view the role sex plays in that relationship differently. "Women want to talk first, connect first, then have sex," Perel explains. "For men, sex is the connection. Sex is the language men use to express their tender loving vulnerable side," Perel says. "It is their language of intimacy."
Willingness to engage in casual sex "splits totally along gender lines," says Driscoll. In a University of Hawaii study, researchers had a good-looking guy and good-looking girl approach a student of the opposite sex and talk for five minutes. After five minutes, each student was asked one of two questions: When asked to go out on a date, male and female responses were identical: 50% of women and 50% of men said yes. But when asked to have sex, the answers couldn't have been more opposite: 75% of the men said yes and 0% of the women said yes, according to Driscoll.
To clarify that last statistic: 95% of the time, the men will want to have sex with a "good-looking" girl. It just might be a bad idea for one reason or another, which is why they would say no
Yes its true. But sex is also more seperate from romance with men because we have trouble doing 2 things at once. Romance doesn't even lead to sex with me unless I'm doing it for the girls sake. When I see a girl dancing, or in a tight outfit or exersizing I'm thinking of sex. When I'm holding a girls hand, looking at the stars with a girl, wathing a waterfall or rainbow with her I'm not thinking of sex at all. I am thinking that I'm in love with her.
I'm glad I'm not part of the 75% that would, not al guys express their vulnerable side through sex, that to me kind of sounds like a cop out, I am a passionate guy that can share my feelings openly if I need to and or simply if I feel close enough to someone, no I'm still probably not as expressive as the average female, but I'd like to think I'm more romantic than most, do I think about sex on a daily basis? Yes, more than once a day? I sure do, but I have restraint and desire a more intimate relationship than just some fling or just sex. Over all I think there is some truth to that, and I believe it possibly applies to most, but please don't forget that not everyone fits into a statistic. And no I'm not angry. I hope this answers your question of what my opinion on the matter is.
again with a very impressive and thought out response you have shocked me... how many guys to you know think the way you do? I must know 6 only (including you)
where are guys like you hiding? XD - 8 months ago
Answerer
Under rocks REALLY big rocks... jk and o really, six? I would love to talk to even one other guy like me, I've been told by many people no one has ever met anyone like me, so I would love to see just how alike they are XD
and thank you for yet another compliment, are you stalking me, if so I just might feel flattered ;) jk but seriously thank you for yet another compliment =) - 8 months ago
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