Alternative way to approach a girl?

Well since staring is out. : /

Im sure you get this a lot but say hi or what really makes me melt is when a guy says he likes my shoes or jacket. Once you've done that try to start a convo. Show her how nice you are. Hope it works fingers crossed

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ok so try writing a message on a paper and stick it on her desk before she gets in class or put it in her locker. introduce yourself. tell her your name, and explain your situation.

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If you go through other ways of trying to talk to her and she turns out to not be interested then it will be the same result if you just go up to her, have a convo, and ask for her number. Rejection sucks but you know what YOU LIVE ONCE, and I think so much more of a guy if he has the courage to just come up to me have a convo, and ask for my number, MANY guys are NOT like that, and I think better of a guy when he just comes right up. It shows he is confident, girls LOVE confidence!

I met a guy on friday I never met this guy in my life, but you know what he came right up to me we had a casual convo and at the end he asked for my number! This is EXACTLY what you need to do, stop beating around the bush and just do it! Like I said if she's not interested in you, it doesn't matter if you send an anonymous email or go up to her in person, you will find out inevitably. You might as well find out sooner then later.

If she's not interested, so be it! We all get rejected, sometimes people don't feel what we feel for them, and you just have to realize that's a part of life! So next time you see her, go right up to her talk to her see how it goes (you never know once you have an actaul convo with her you may realize you built up in your head) and if it goes well, say listen I'd love to take you out sometime, can I have your number? If she says no, you'll have your answer, and you can move on..its that simple

so any good news after a month now ?

I think anonymous email with hints might creep her out. Not the best plan.

I think the best option is to email her about class. It's perfectly normal for classmates to talk about class. And if you can email about class, it might give you a chance to ease into face-to-face conversations. Perhaps you could email her a question about an assignment or lecture. Pick a topic that will require a few emails between you two. "I don't think I understand the last lecture, and I noticed you take good notes. Can you explain it to me?" Once she explains, ask her to elaborate a bit. Ask if she'd be willing to help you face-to-face.

I can be shy, and I completely understand being nervous and overloaded.But I suspect you're overthinking this somewhat.

In conversations, you don't make constant eye contact anyway. You look at someone for a few seconds, then look away for a few seconds.

If you don't talk much, practice with others. Imagine small talk as a simple algorithm. You ask one question, listen to the answer, share your opinion. Ask another question, listen to the answer, share your opinion. Repeat, repeat, repeat.

If you have Asperger's syndrome, it might be a strength in some ways. You probably have some hobbies or interests that you excel at, correct? If so, lead with those skills, whatever they are. Try to start a conversation in an area of your strength. Attend clubs or meetings for the topics of your interest, where you've got a built-in conversation topic. If you can practice socializing in other contexts, it'll make you a bit less nervous with girls. But beware dominating the conversation. Remember the ask-listen-share pattern.

Also, beware defining yourself by a disorder. There's a subtle distinction between "I *am* an Asperger's" and "I *have* Aspeger's." I'm writing as an adult with ADHD. The minute you *are* something, you've created a mindset where you're trapped by definitions. But if you *have* a disorder, it's a part of your life but not the core of you're life. You have Asperger's, but you're also (for example) a right-handed, blond, Baptist from a Dutch-German family, with a comprehensive collection of Werner Herzog DVDs. If you *have* a disorder, you can treat it and modify its effects on you life. I *am* white/Caucasian; I can't change that. But I *have* ADHD, and I *can* change the way that disorder effects my life.

Hope this helps.

Good luck!

Approach anxiety is something that everyone has at some point in time. It takes time to get comfortable in "uncomfortable" situations. Sounds like you are putting this girl so high up on a pedistal that you are light years away from her. She is person too and does all the same things you do - eat, sleep, study ect. I think it's in guys nature to come up with the worst horrible case and think that is going to happen - what if I approach and she turns into a fire breathing dragon and lights me a fire! LOL. As far as concrete advise I don't feel something that works for me will work for you, everyone is different. I felt what your feeling when I was first trying to get good with interactions and it took some idenity level change to get over it. You sound like a sincere dude so give yourself the chance. Think of it as "I deserve this girl!"