After our break up, I heard from the grapevine that he was bad mouthing me to all of our mutual friends. I have spoken to the rebound woman and she stated that he told her so many lies about me. He wants me to hurt and be jealous of his current relationship. We had a up and down relationship and everything he has done to me (bad), he told friends and rebound woman that I did those things to him. Crazy! I guess I never had anyone be that vindictive before and I wonder why he is acting out so intensely. I am trying to understand why he hates me so much! I guess I need to come to some closure and this is why I am wanting to clarify his actions.
Because hate trumps hurt every time. How to get over a break-up; you concentrate on all the bad things and avoid the good; you make it up in your own mind if necessary. All of this is to avoid feeling hurt. Just my opinion but I think I'm in the right ballpark.
Some people are that vindictive if a relationship doesn't go their way. He gets a kick out of hurting you and you let him keep doing it. You have got to stop worrying and thinking of him because every time it gets to you it allows him to win again. Chalk it up to him just being a jerk and a big learning lesson for you.
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