Is this a savior complex? Narcissism?

I think it's called. "Self Centered, I need to Control Because I'm Insecure I have a Small Dick So I'll Leave You Before You Leave Me" Syndrome. It's rare but also inherited. You can tell when you look at his old family pictures, all the men will have their hand covering their crotch area & they all look sad because there are no women in the photos...because they all left them.

SCINT- CBIIIHASD Syndrome

he is a physopath my cousin is the same

No, I do not 'know them'. I try to stay away as far as possible from them. Why would I want to get to know them?

Hmm, pity the narcissist. According to psych101, these people do not even realize their own problems. Narcissists tend to blame their own faults on other people and think they are top stuff. Worzt mentioned relationships should be a matter between 2 people and no one deserves to feel completely at fault in a failed relationship. You can avoid them in the future by observing how they share responsibility with everyone else because narcissists often have consistent attitudes.

Statistically, the majority of narcissists are males, thus the word douche bag.

I've wound up playing the white night and rescuing a few damsels in distress. It never works though, because they need me more than I need them. No more rescue cases for me. I hate feeling like I'm taking advantage. Curse of the nice guy, is that girls needing rescue gravitate towards me.

so you're talking about after the break up when he checks in on you is he trying to be a savior?
I'd say no. They are really just immature and confused about their feelings that's why the blame you for the problems in the relationship when it's them. Then when the break up happens they are lonely, missing you, etc and reach out because they probably are just checking in, seeing if you've met someone else, or just enjoying the little bit of attention they get in your response.

first off girl, a relationship is between TWO, when one fails is almost always BOTH who should be blamed, there are VERY FEW exceptions but most times the folt is not his or hers, if they were mature they'll sit and acknowledge "is OUR fault", on the other hand, savior complex is indeed bad, but is also not so hard to understand, see, even if it has diminished in later years, it is still veri widespread the fact that MANY (and I shall still say more than half) women have "lady in distress" mentallity and/or are waiting for a Prince Charming, so you can blame guys for trying to be said Prince even if they fail miserably, on but furthermore, even if you, and a growingh portion of female gender don't want a Prince or Hero anymore, most of you still behaves like you indeed wanted that, how, you ask? by being the "lady", the one that will always wait for the guy to make a move, the one who won't talk her mind and let the guy read you, becuase it's HIS responsability doesn't it? the one who have a man buying her gifts and always paying in dates, because that's their role, so basically, you are Rapunzel, only most of you don't throw your hair down and let the "prince" clim the tower with bare hands, if you are the ones that limit themselves to be only the response to the male stimulli, never straightforward, and the whole "is the man'¿s duty" mentallity, you look in most men's eyes a helpless woman, that had to be charm, that have to be thaught how to open up to someone, that needs to be taken care of, so they, in response to you, behave like the rescuer, except there are no real knights so often they don't know what to do,.
Finally, there are many kinds of man, and most will do what you despise the most (for what I read), claim it was your faul, and well you claim it was theirs, like I said, FEW exceptions, but very likely you were both to blame, why he blames you? perhaps for the same reason you blame him, becuase NOBODY wants to aknowledge their own faults, is painfull, is easier to blame others. After almost any break up BOTH will blame each other, but often times just let it go, if it is more often that a man will play the blame game in this situation is because, it is kind of like a father and child relationship, child is dependent, child should no go against dad, because even iof dad is horrible, is the only one taking care of you (that's why you are with him), and often, you are not doing anything for him since he is not dependent on you, just like a father would feel bad after having fed a child for 20 years, being awful if you want, but being there and the child turns 21 and goes "hate you dad, see you in hell" again, the man might be horrible, but still expects some consideration out gratefullness

You made choices also. No one can make anyone do anything. People are responsible for their actions. No one can save anyone. You can only save yourself. That is not what a narcissists is.

If someone says to you, you're a horrible girlfriend, I imagine they have a reason for it...Have you tried asking him?

You obviously dated my ex lol

You just described me in total reverse lol. I'm the one with the "savior complex" except really, it's not some savior mentality. It was me going out of my way to help that person through their emotional issues and when they not only didn't appreciate it, but spoke to me a certain way and just stopped talking to me; I was livid. I wanted to make sure they never forgot the good things I could have contributed that they will never know of. He deserves to hurt. I helped him through his rough times and with the way he treated me, he deserves to be hurt and be reminded of how at fault he was.

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