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Why are older guys turned on by innocence?

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alanta7 (Age:Under 18)     When: 4 months ago
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what is it that makes men want innocence?...is it control or just innocence?


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honeyltsme
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4 months ago
just innocence (IMHO) or more precisely it's novelty renewed through the partner's eyes

kind of like, I have a bunch of my favorite films on bluray that I've watched a bunch of times, classics mostly, but it's an additional pleasure to see them with someone who's never seen that particular film.

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  • JohnnySS
    478  
    4 months ago
    Innocence is both all powerful but needs protection. Innocence is potential.
    An innocent boy turns into a Tyrant personality or a King.
    I don't know the female shadow archetype but I know the light archetype is the Queen.

    I think men still believe that a long time ago when we were living in tents and caves for thousands of years It was only a few people to compete with over someone young, vigorous and youthful and that at that time it was likely that a young girl would probably have stayed with you for a long time and even all your life. Things are not the same anymore. There are countless people alive now.

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    • Question Asker
      4 months ago
      wow in depth buddy but thanx.. is it best to go for guy with experience or fellow virgin to losemy innocencse?
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    4 months ago
    it has nothing to do with control. I think a part of it is that it makes us feel dominant and powerful in contrast to her innocence. A part of us wants to take that innocence too (sexually that is).

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    • Question Asker
      4 months ago
      wow is it not too much hard work with girl that doesn't know what she's doing..is virgin tighter than experienced girl by much...does it hurt you both? you had many virgins?
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    4 months ago
    Because they won't be compared to other guys.

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  • -0x0-
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    4 months ago
    Evolution.
    Men naturally want younger women as it means they're more fertile.
    Innocence is a trait of youth. The two naturally go together.

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    • Answerer
      4 months ago
      they're not no. But the quality of the sex is quite irrelevant to that sort of base primal thinking.
    • Question Asker
      4 months ago
      Had many virgins then. Are they better sex doubt iy
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    4 months ago
    Perhaps you should ask Chris Hansen.

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    Anonymous User
    4 months ago
    Not me. A smart girl turns me on

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    • Question Asker
      4 months ago
      I am in UK 16 is legal. Where is my clit friends and how do I simulate
    • Answerer
      4 months ago
      You are young...under 18 and will have to ask someone your age or a female. I will say use clitoral stimulation but I do not feel that I should say anything too specific and or graphic. I just realized it said under 18
    • Question Asker
      4 months ago
      Any physical tips tried one finger in me but very tight and did nothing
    • Answerer
      4 months ago
      Be patient, guilt free and do not rush it. The more you try the more you fail
    • Question Asker
      4 months ago
      Really. You male or female
      how do I make myself come . My friends say they done it so I say I have too but not got clue. Any tips
    • Answerer
      4 months ago
      I am right here for you to ask anything within reason.
    • Question Asker
      4 months ago
      Yes I agree which is why I want to learn how to pleasure but no one will give me advice ah poor me
    • Answerer
      4 months ago
      Be patient. Do not be so anxious to get older and more experience. People are not loyal and diseases like hpv and gonorrhea are rampant. Be safe and be happy.
    • Question Asker
      4 months ago
      Wow your very experienced then. So you were first to make virgins come then. I don't even know how to pleasure myself sad eh
    • Answerer
      4 months ago
      I am older than 35 and younger than 45 and I dated a bunch of virgins in my late teens to early 20's and they were about my age most times and last girlfriend I had was 18 years younger than me and she was a virgin
    • Question Asker
      4 months ago
      How old are you. How old were your virgins
    • Answerer
      4 months ago
      Yes I had a few and smart is all that matters. Virgin is not an issue with me
    • Question Asker
      4 months ago
      Is s smart virgin good then. Had any virgins
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    Anonymous User
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    4 months ago
    To some, it's like fresh snow. You can make the first tracks.

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    • Question Asker
      4 months ago
      Really are yours men or girl . Are you male or female.
    • 4 months ago
      Like coloring the white snow yellow? Maybe.
    • Question Asker
      4 months ago
      You had many virgins. Nicely put by the way.but id it not hard work teaching
  • jacquesvol
    32765  
    4 months ago
    "men want"
    Huh?
    I did never look for it. When others look for it I suspect control or insecure guys (or both): innocent girls can't compare.

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    • Question Asker
      4 months ago
      Don't have guy. Like I said want to learn how to pleasure myself.
    • Answerer
      4 months ago
      @Question Asker,
      Being a virgin of not has really NO importance. Not a positive one, not a negative one. Same for being experienced or not. The important point is 'How is your relationship with the guy?' What kind of guy do you need?
    • Question Asker
      4 months ago
      Ta .
    • Answerer
      4 months ago
      take care.
    • Question Asker
      4 months ago
      I will wear anything if I get to explore my un tapped cloud of lust. Sorry to bore you. But you obviously are too uncomfortable to help . Sweet ta
    • Answerer
      4 months ago
      If the grass is wet, wear wellies.
    • Question Asker
      4 months ago
      Only the grass is getting wet. But how do i.
    • Answerer
      4 months ago
    • Question Asker
      4 months ago
      Funny enough that excites me as much as do myself alone
      we are both rubbish at arousal eh
    • Answerer
      4 months ago
      The weather is fine today, isn't it? I think it could be misty and rainy tomorrow.
    • Question Asker
      4 months ago
      I can spot sad perve just want genuine help. From you maybe
    • Answerer
      4 months ago
      19,20
      No helpers? The pervs will show themselves when they read this.
      You're 16? Nothing to hurry to, nothing to despair about.
    • Question Asker
      4 months ago
      How old were your virgin. If I'm honest I want talked and walked through self pleasure is that strange. But no helpers yet sob sob
    • Answerer
      4 months ago
      2

      You'll learn. Just read and explore.
      (NO, definitely NOT '50 shades of Grey' )
    • Question Asker
      4 months ago
      How many virgins you had then. But I know your right. I just have so many urges urges and don't even know how to satisfy myself sad eh
    • Answerer
      4 months ago
      Either there's a spark between you or there isn't.
      -If the spark is there, innocent or not won't change a lot. It's no hard work and it's just as much fun. (been there, done that!)
      -If the spark isn't there, just going after a girl BECAUSE she's innocent has never been my style or my idea of a good relationship.
    • Question Asker
      4 months ago
      Is innocent too much hard work. No fun
  • bruvleigh
    2217  
    4 months ago
    we have a protect instinct as guys, nothing about control.

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  • stubbsy
    16379  
    4 months ago
    Its all down to maturity, if a girl is mentally mature but still comes across as inexperienced, then these traits can appeal to the so called older man, but if for any reason she looks young and is immature, then this is often something guys wouldn't be attracted to. Even though guys mature a lot slower than women, the only reason older guys go for younger women is because they see them on the same maturity level as themselves, and if I was honest, guys often take a while to grow up, so a 20 year old women could often meet the maturity requirements of a 28 year old man,x

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    • Question Asker
      4 months ago
      feel like time has run out I have urges but no clue how to quel them alone but ta
    • Answerer
      4 months ago
      I wouldn't class that as sad, it just goes to prove that you have a lot of self worth, and exploring yourself will come in time, just because you havent, does not mean you have to, and being a virgin is one of the single most valuable compliments you could pay your first boyfriend, he will be proud to be considered to be worthy of you, so take your time in this department,x
    • Question Asker
      4 months ago
      wow thanx... but i,m 16yr old virgin who is quite mature and acheing for sexual experience but unsure how to proceed...not even explored myself yet how sad eh?
  • aMuse
    23290  
    4 months ago
    Why do older guys like innocence? For the same reason younger guys do. They don't like bitter bitches, cheaters, manipulative women, and girls that have f***ed everyone in the apartment complex. Girls that are sweet to them, aren't carrying too much baggage, have some experience but not enough to turn them into a train wreck have the possibility to make decent girlfriends. Being kind of naive/inexperienced means that you probably haven't been played and are still capable of trusting someone, you're not cynical, your defense mechanism are so up that it makes you undatable. You're still capable of love...

    As to you being 16, if older men are chasing you I'm guessing they just see you as naive and easy to take advantage of and have no moral boundaries in their mind when it comes to jail bait. =/

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    • Question Asker
      4 months ago
      Thanks lots of interesting reading but still at a loss on how to excite and arouse myself. All advise welcome
    • 4 months ago
    • Question Asker
      4 months ago
      I am realist and know much first won't be my only. But I need to learn to pleasure myself before I expect a guy to do it yes. But I don't have a clue. Sad eh
    • 4 months ago
      @Question Asker
      For a first lover, choose a guy who really cares about YOU and whom you feel love for. (experienced or ot!) Anyone else will leave a foul taste.
    • Answerer
      4 months ago
      Find someone you like and are comfortable with, someone that actually likes you and is willing to be patient with you. If he's a virgin you two can learn together. If he's not, but willing to deal with a virgin then at least he knows what he's in for. A lot of older men don't really like dealing with virgins because it can take a long time to have sex with them, they can be panicy, clingy, etc. Some guys will do stick it out just to tag one and then jump ship once they get laid though...
    • Question Asker
      4 months ago
      so which should I choose experience or virginity from my first lover...i don't even know how to explore myself yet sad eh
    • Answerer
      4 months ago
      You should stick with someone in your own age bracket for now. Date someone in high school. If you find someone and get into a good relationship with them then you'll probably feel better about the entire losing your virginity thing. If some more experienced guy just sees you as an easy mark and takes advantage of you, then you're going to develop all those trust issues I mentioned above that a lot of guys don't like. I'm sure you can find someone your own age.
    • 4 months ago
      generally... no, the thing a guy wants most is to be the best of the best in the eys of the girl and in turn that MAKES the sex better. and he is DEFINATELY the best you will have had if he's the only one youve had, which in turn will make him more relaxed and enjoy it more. Of course an experianced woman can have her advantages but generally no
    • Question Asker
      4 months ago
      is an experienced lover better than an inexperienced one tho for a virgin like me?
    • Answerer
      4 months ago
      *aren't
  • PhilaPenn
    3350  
    4 months ago
    Sounds like a pedophile to me. Look, if you're like 16 and you have a 30 year old guy who is showing you attention, then assume that he's taking advantage of you. There are no exceptions.

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    • 4 months ago
      dont go for guys who arnt in your stage of life, it just gets weird, if your in (what Americans call) high school then stay away from the college guys, if your in college then stay away from the guy who is old enough to have a family, it gets too awekward otherwise and can be very creepy if your in high school and he's in his mid 20's not to mention possibly illegal for Americans who arnt allowed to have sex till 18 lol
    • Answerer
      4 months ago
      When I was 17 my girlfriend was 16. since I turned 21 I haven't dated any under 21, and I don't even do 21 anymore. 23 is as young as I can go now.
    • Question Asker
      4 months ago
      ok cool but how young have you tried then?
    • Answerer
      4 months ago
      Lol, under 30 but old enough to not date someone who can't legally purchase beer.
    • Question Asker
      4 months ago
      and how old are you sensible dude? but yes I would never be that stupid ..well I hope not tho i,m very very inexperienced ooops
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    4 months ago
    Its hard to explain but men like to protect girls, its a natural instinct for most men, and when we see a shy/innocent girl a lot of guys think its cute and feel the need to protect her. I don't even know why myself, but I just really like shy/innocent girls. I think its because of biology and evolution over time, where men have traditionally been the hunters/fighters and women have been the ones to stay at home/watch the kids. Not saying that's what its like now, but that's how it was and still is in some places before the modern world. Generally speaking, women are more submissive then men, that's just how we are made and of course there are exceptions.

    I feel like this is a needlessly complicated answer and I still didn't answer your question good but I really don't know why, we just like innocence.

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    • Question Asker
      4 months ago
      is an experienced lover better than inexperienced one tho for virgin like me?
    • Question Asker
      4 months ago
      very profound so have you experienced a virgin then...are they not worse than experienced lovers?
  • Dionysos
    5596  
    4 months ago
    Depends on the person. I'm pretty old by GAG standards and I like innocence because it seems like part of my youth. It's something we lose and miss as we get older, so we find it really appealing in other people.

    Control types are another animal entirely. I can't stand control freaks. For them it's probably about control and being the one to destroy/consume that innocence. People like that scare the bejeepers out of me.

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    • Question Asker
      4 months ago
      Been so nice already thanks
    • Answerer
      4 months ago
      Sorry. Wish I could help more. Good luck!
    • Question Asker
      4 months ago
      Thanks but can't as dad will check search history and go mad and I prefer to be talked and walked through it. But not your thing I guess
    • Answerer
      4 months ago
      Check out the link I and my last comment and explore a bit through their site. It should definitely help clear up any anatomical questions and provides a bunch of stuff from girls about the specifics.
    • Question Asker
      4 months ago
      I have heard of clit but not found it. So fingering fussy won't make me come but I need to do what with my clit
      Thanks so much
    • Answerer
      4 months ago
      Sorry for being imprecise. Lump = clitoris. See link
      Slipperiness prevents chafing or injury to delicate tissues, and while the body provides a natural lubricant when a female is aroused sexually, it can be supplemented with other safe slippery substances. Most chemists carry personal lubricants for a variety of purposes. In the states, the biggest brand is KY. Avoid things that will irritate (like soap can after a while) or pose an infection risk (like dairy products).
    • Question Asker
      4 months ago
      Sounds interesting. What's the lump bit and how do I get wet and slippery
    • Answerer
      4 months ago
      Best I can offer is to be relaxed, comfortable, calm, gentle, and slippery. Beyond that it's all experimentation, especially for guys since we have different plumbing and everybody's bits are wired a bit different so different stuff feels good for each person. That and most girls like the little lump in the middle a lot. From what I hear, shower massaging heads and anything that vibrates can be fun too.
    • Question Asker
      4 months ago
      Your sincerity and honest calm approach is admirable but a male perspective would be unusual and maybe fun if you could venture there. No girl help yet. I have asked
    • Answerer
      4 months ago
      I think most of the guys are afraid of crossing the line between being frank and honest regardless of age, and seeming like some creepy internet pedo. It's a messed up world, but it is what it is. Your best bet might be to ask a girls specific how to fap question. Some of the girls here seem pretty willing to describe what they do for fun. It's probably not what you want to hear but they're probably a better source of that info than any guy can be. Wish I could be more helpful.
    • Question Asker
      4 months ago
      Ta your very kind. But if I'm honest I want the security of being talked through pleasuring myself but alas no one will help.
    • Answerer
      4 months ago
      There are some great info resources online. I think one is called clitical. Given you're under age I don't want to get a lot more specific. My dirty old man gene only goes so far, lol! Do what feels good.
    • Question Asker
      4 months ago
      any help with exploring muyself would be appreciatted as so naeive...never done b4?can you help?
    • Answerer
      4 months ago
      No reason you can't explore yourself. The more you know about what feels good to you, the better you'll be able to communicate with a partner later, and whatever his/her age, telling them how to make you feel great is the best way to make sure you have the kind of experience you'll really like. Stay safe and have fun!
    • Question Asker
      4 months ago
      i won't thanks but I feel my sexuality is waiting to explode...i,m not even experienced in exploring myself...hpow sad eh
    • Answerer
      4 months ago
      No rush, no hurry. Especially at your age. Whatever you do, don't ever let anyone of any age pressure you into doing something that YOU don't actively want to do.
    • Question Asker
      4 months ago
      mentoring sounds amazing and sensual but i,m so naeive..not even learnt how to explore myself yet how embarrassing eh?
    • Answerer
      4 months ago
      I was in my early 30s and she was mid 20s. I learned from a lady in her mid thirties and LOVED it because it was a true FWB no strings romp. Plus she knew what she wanted and taught me how to provide it. I think she made me a much better lover. If my first had been my age, I think I might have had a lot less fun, and I know I wouldn't have known how to read my partner well enough to give her as much pleasure as a more experienced person could. Mentoring = Great. Abuse = Really really bad.
    • Question Asker
      4 months ago
      wow sounds awesome but is experience better than learning together with fellow virgin...how old was she?
    • Answerer
      4 months ago
      As far as sex is concerned, I had the privilege once, of giving a girl I was dating her first big O. Gotta say that was pretty special. Getting to experience her awakening to that aspect of herself was really really neat.
 

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    Anonymous User
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    4 months ago
    For some, it makes them feel powerful -- as in they get to teach the girl to do whatever they like the most, instead of her having formed her own opinions through life experiences. Guys who go for underage girls are also usually less adapt than their peers for picking up women, so they feel more confident going for women who are uncertain about dating.

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    • Answerer
      4 months ago
      Like I said, look it up online... There is this book "Because It Feels Good" that is a great resource, as well.
    • Question Asker
      4 months ago
      Tried and struggling to find and stimulate understand your age worry but I need guidance in self pleasure please help me
    • Answerer
      4 months ago
      I'd really prefer not to say anything overtly sexual to someone who is under 18. For females, the most sensitive sexual pleasure center is the clitorous, which is on the outside. Look it up, if necessary.
    • Question Asker
      4 months ago
      Very sensible advice which I think I will follow but I need to learn how to pleasure myself to calm my urges . Can you advise how perhaps
    • Answerer
      4 months ago
      Guys will get gratification through pretty much anything, due to physical differences. The guys who go for underage girls go for the sweet, innocent ones for ego-boosting reasons. I'd suggest waiting a while longer to feel more comfortable and then finding someone your own age and experience level and learning together.
    • Question Asker
      4 months ago
      That makes lots of sense but is not experience in lover better than a learner. I can't talk as I don't even know how to pleasure myself. Sad eh
  • KJT6989
    2595  
    4 months ago
    Honey I will tell you don't rush into anything! Sex is a great thing when you are ready for your and I don't think you are ready for it yet! And please don't lose your V card to a 30 year old man! I remember your question from yesterday! lol You shouldn't feel rushed into having sex or feel like you have to prove anything!

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    • Question Asker
      4 months ago
      I have tried but nothing happens sorry I am dumb. Tried one finger in me but really tight and rubbish. What else is there
    • Answerer
      4 months ago
      Honey it's not rocket science just put your finger down there and play around!
    • Question Asker
      4 months ago
      I don't but I have so many urges. Need to learn how to satisfy myself to stop the desires but no one will advise help
  •  LexiNinja
    -1  
    4 months ago
    Come on, lets get real, the only reason an older guy would want to be with a younger chick is because they can take advantage of them and manipulate them into thinking it's something more they have going on. But, in reality they just want to bang them.

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    • Question Asker
      4 months ago
      Makes lots of sense but is an experienced lover not best. Cos I'm so naive I don't even know how to pleasure myself yet. Sad eh
    • 4 months ago
      Smart answer here.
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    Anonymous User
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    4 months ago
    They like that tight vagina

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    • Question Asker
      4 months ago
      Who does it hurt most. You had many virgins
    • 4 months ago
      Only if it's painful for one of you. Otherwise it's a plus.
    • Question Asker
      4 months ago
      Does it feel better the tighter it is then cos god I'm tight. Is that bad
  • EmpressMe
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    4 months ago
    Depends. Some guys are just weird and they really do just like feeling like they can control her and manipulate her because she hasn't been exposed to as much. Some guys find her lack of exposure refreshing because they don't have to worry about dealing with a bunch of baggage.

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    • Question Asker
      4 months ago
      wow thanks so much added you as friend if that's ok...how old are u? your deff a girl yes?
    • Answerer
      4 months ago
      If you want to go into further depth, then you'll have to pm me. I'm not broadcasting my sexual experience for GAG.com to tune in on lol
    • Question Asker
      4 months ago
      i spose it will but not really much I can do...not played not orgasmed not been explored...not done much and sometimes feel I need to burst out and do it all... but don't know how... spose your very experienced yes?
    • Answerer
      4 months ago
      lol, no, you shouldn't in my opinion. Especially if you are hardly dating the guy. You don't have to tell him everything about yourself; he doesn't need to know that. If you are near age 18, you need to get over that being naive stuff. It will get you in trouble in the real world.
    • Question Asker
      4 months ago
      sounds very sensible so I shouldn't reveal I'm naeive and innocent and haven't even explored myself yet...thats nother story eh...how do I go about that hmmm?
    • Answerer
      4 months ago
      I just think it's best if you are a virgin with a backbone who's assertive and very strong so that you don't allow some a**hole to walk over you. You recognize if he's trying to control you and break things off :)
    • Answerer
      4 months ago
      lol! Nope, thank God no! But I've heard many stories from girls who were and I do my best to learn from them. When I was a virgin as an adult, I just didn't tell guys until they became my boyfriend because I didn't want them to view me as a conquest and just be after my cherry moreso than building a true connection.
    • Question Asker
      4 months ago
      wow were you exploited as virgin then...i,m virgin and don't want older guy well i,m not sure ..is experience better or younger fellow innocence?
 
   
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