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He's panicking that he hurt my feelings

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(Age:18 to 24) When: 4 months ago

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This guy that I like is always teasing me and "plays mean" on text. He did say something tonight that pushed the limits. It upset me and I told him that I was going and to have a good night. Suddenly I got all these texts saying that he didn't mean what he said, there wasn't anything against me. He then text that he had a bad day (which I had originally asked) and that he was frustrated. I told him not to worry about it that I was just being sensitive.

My question is does he have feelings for me? He panicked when I got upset. Started explaining himself and everything. He won't say anything now but I think it's Because he's embarrassed.


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xyhic

4 months ago

Yup ask him to be really sure but either way he answers you can proceed. Sory interjection here but it seems every question on here is dealing with non assertive shy guys. Like gentz stop being a wuss and save these chicks some headachs

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- Question Asker
  4 months ago
  Yea I'll definitely pull back. So bummed. In the last few weeks I heard from him everyday or every other day! Now he won't reply to me. Sad :(
- Answerer
  4 months ago
  Yea its scary for a lot of guys try to be more agressive if he pulls back do the same he might chase you then
- Question Asker
  4 months ago
  Interesting. Even when the girl has shown non stop interest?
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- Answerer
  4 months ago
  Its easy to joke more so on text. Asking a girl out most would kiss qn alligator then be rejected
- Question Asker
  4 months ago
  i don't get it. He's not exactly shy when he's being sarcastic or joking on text.
- Answerer
  4 months ago
  Yeah he's just being shy wanting to stay in contact afraid you will blow him off. Guys always friend zone themselves so sad
- Question Asker
  4 months ago
  So you honestly thinks he likes me? So does that mean that because he's so non assertive and shy, it's normal for him to text only in joke form, sarcasm, playfully obnoxious? We hardly ever have a serious conversation. I live laughing with him but what gives?
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Theatrics

4 months ago

I'm sure he's just afraid you're still mad at him or that you lost respect for him.

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- Question Asker
  4 months ago
  he's awkward yet I don't know how to put it...grumpy? not really talkative. :(
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Theatrics

4 months ago

It sounds like he really likes you. I've been guilty of apologizing for no reason to the girl I like. Hah, she does the same with me. She thinks I don't like her. Good luck.

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- Question Asker
  4 months ago
  the only prob is that he's been awkward/weird with me since...like he doesn't know how to act.
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kheserthorpe

4 months ago

I think it may suggest that.

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  4 months ago
  Suggest what? That he likes me?
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asdaven

4 months ago

Def means he cares and values you a lot in his life and doesn't want to loose you or hurt you. Whether that is a romantic or in a friendly way I don't know. Sounds like your someone he trusts and wants you to trust him.

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- Question Asker
  4 months ago
  haha true. I'm extremely laid back so when I DO get upset, I just say "ok, I'm leaving you be. Goodnight" And I do. When he reread the convo as he said he did, I think he realized that he was being over-the-top. Honestly, I get over things very quickly. More than I should. lol. So yea, I must have freaked him out. I totally agree, definitely think he was embarassed. Very.I must have been on his mind this morning as he text me from work. (another rarity). I guess I'm breakin him dwn without trying
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  4 months ago
  True. He just broke his macho- ness by overly explaining himself and he realized that. So I guess he went silent because he was embarrassed in a way. But us men know women will sometimes deny something is wrong when it is or say its alright when it isn't.
- Question Asker
  4 months ago
  lol, well I insulted at first. I literally said goodnight. Went to my kitchen to heat something up and in the midst of the 5-10 mins, he had all those texts. I normally respond quickly so perhaps that lapse of time freaked him out and he REALLY thought I was mad. He didn't apologize (he's too stubborn and I think it's too scary for him to do) just overly explained himself. Then he was dead silent for the rest of the night even when I said not to worry about it. Sigh. I didn't understand thatpart
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  4 months ago
  Probably is like me. When a girl is mad at us, we don't know what to do. We try to apologize and try to make things right and the girl just becomes more angry. Men are used to just apologizing to each other to make things right. With a girl things are more complicated and we don't know how to fix it and make tjings right. So he is probably afraid of being in that situation. It can be frustrating when you try to make things right and you feel bad and you just end up making them more angry at you.
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  4 months ago
  hmmm...well he didn't flat out say he was sorry. That's what I meant by before. It was just a bunch of texts stating that he didn't mean to imply bad things, after that he text that he had a bad day and was frustrated, followed by another text after that stating again that he didn't mean to hurt me and that it wasn't directed at me. He clams up when he has to express himself. I known that he feels, I know. It's just very hard for him to show. If I'm remotely upset he panics. I'm never upset tho
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  4 months ago
  Common misconception. All guys have emotions honestly ...all humans have emotion basically its just how they are expressed and acknowledged. And just because they aren't acknowledged or expressed sometimes doesn't mean theyre not there. Guys who don't watch what they say either don't careanout the girl in the first place or do but are scared of looking weak by apologizing and showing that they feel bad.
- Question Asker
  4 months ago
  Well, he's one of those macho guy's guy. Struggles w emotion, definitely with expressing himself. This is good to see that he is watching what he says.
- Answerer
  4 months ago
  Yeah id do the samething. I realize girls are more affected and hurt by stuff more than guys, so I feel extra bad or guilty if I do something accidentally hurtful towards a girl provided she's nice. This could be part of his reasoning too.
- Question Asker
  4 months ago
  I think also wa the fact that I was tryin to be nice and was also saying that I was super sick too. Early in the convo he seemed to have ignored it. Now he's definitely taking the time to be caring I guess.
- Answerer
  4 months ago
  Well he cares about you and that's a good thing. Maybe this time he knows he really went too far and feels bad.
- Question Asker
  4 months ago
  In the past he's acted so differently. I've never seen him panic like this. Interestingly enough, he text me this morning hoping that I'm doing OK. It's bizarre coming from him..
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Caras-Altas

4 months ago

When a guy does that, it can mean two things. Or he is sensitive and doesn't like being mad with someone or he cares about your feelings.

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  4 months ago
  He's definitely not sensitive.

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Blissful1169

4 months ago

I think its a good indicator that he cares about you and how you feel. Whether that's romantic or not, I don't know.

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  4 months ago
  well, I wasn't expecting to hear from him today but he text me that he hopes that I'm feeling better. This is something else that he rarely does. He usually clams up and gets rigid, can't look at me, when he is concerned, worried, happy etc. It's like he doesn't know what to do with his emotions! I admit, I was so giddy that he said that to me today. It's like "yay! you really DO care! "

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