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Women: what makes YOU a good catch? I heard on here one time women were complaining how women bash their man

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Anonymous User (Age:25 to 29)     When: 3 months ago
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And as everyone already knows, that men love to be nagged and insulted to other people behind our backs.

What do you do on a date to separate yourself from other women.
Because I go on an average of 3 dates a week with different women and its repetitive and boring.

Much of the time its like were reading resumes to each other and applying for a job that neither of us wants.

And since men are the ones who approach and do all the work it takes to get women I can't honestly think of ONE thing women do during the dating process to get me to like them.
Other than dressing up, sitting there, smiling and being entertained by me.

If you are so great, what makes you different?


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3 months ago
What makes me different?

I talk about goofy things. I'm not a very serious person. I've been likened to Jenna Marbles and Zooey Deschanel in New Girl. I'm kinda bouncy.
I never want to have kids. EVER.
I'm a Libertarian - that's a bit different.
I am usually the person dominating the conversation, not sitting and listening...

I don't like dressing up too much for first dates.
I prefer to start on dates with minimal talking if I do not know the person -ex: movies. If our short conversations go well then I will go on a more conversation based style date.

I don't think that was really your question though. Are you leading the conversations to the boring resume place? Maybe ask some odd questions or share some different personal stories that she might relate to. Ask about her family- that might lead to some interesting stories? Maybe you are just meeting the wrong people?

Goodluck!

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  • Answerer
    3 months ago
    Hahah I'm sure if she had that amazing personality it would make her seem prettier too!
    :)
  • Answerer
    3 months ago
    Idk. When I learned about it I guess it wasn't so much!
    I have met a lot of people who are Libertarians and don't know it yet though!
  • 3 months ago
    Its becoming quite popular to be a Libertarian actually. -fellow Libertarian
  • Question Asker
    3 months ago
    Yeah I didn't care, I was completely smitten. Thank god she wasn't UGLY, she just wasn't physically my type.
    if she was ugly then id really be screwed up and not know what to do with myself.
  • Answerer
    3 months ago
    I know. Hehehe
    Well I wish you luck in finding one! But there are a lot of there - just harder to find maybe?
    Maybe you will see her again?
    BUT I'm sure you can find one that has her positivity AND that you are more physically attracted to! :)
  • Question Asker
    3 months ago
    You know it was crazy being around a girl like that. I felt out of control, like I wanted to be near her all the time. she had such a playful and positive aura about her that I could not help but smile all the time. If not for her I would never know what I was looking for in women.
    I love that girlie girl stuff its intoxicating.

  • Question Asker
    3 months ago
    she was so f***ing girlie and feminine, she actually almost danced when she walked.
    it was crazy. I laughed about it at first, and then I found myself in a good mood all the time when I was around her, and then that turned to attraction.
  • Question Asker
    3 months ago
    she worked at my gym and now she doesn't.
    I didn't want to ask her out, (I was pretty sure she was interested) but I wasn't that attracted to her physically, until I got to know her and I became addicted to her as a person, she made my mood shoot through the roof and I got giddy around her.
    and now she's gone.
  • Answerer
    3 months ago
    Like what? And she is gone!? Maybe you can find her still? :(
  • Question Asker
    3 months ago
    ive only met one girl in my life that was like that, I had a HUGE crush on her, but she had a boyfriend, and when I figured out that I really liked her she was gone.
  • Question Asker
    3 months ago
    Its really awesome, most guys I know like that stuff.
  • Answerer
    3 months ago
    Probs.
    Though I haveee met some people who dislike quirky-ness.
    (We usually don't get along.) hhaha
  • Answerer
    3 months ago
    Yay! :)
    Looks like I got it right the first time then! Hahaha
    Thanks. :)

    But I kinda wanna know, what makes YOU different then? :p
  • Question Asker
    3 months ago
    Why would someone disagree with this?
    It must be the libertarian thing.
  • Question Asker
    3 months ago
    no that was my question.
    Cool.
    I like that personalty that's awesome!

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  • winluv
    238  
    3 months ago
    It's only going to be different when the girl you're dating isn't too preoccupied in pleasing you. Some women date just to see and figure out different men to find the qualities that's best suited to their own taste and if there's a connection, voila! Perfect!. I dated several men before but wasn't really much interested into getting in a relationship. I met my boyfriend by chance. We hit off because there was really a deep connection which til now I couldn't fathom.

    Dating would be boring when forced. Specially when you date several girls simultaneously..it would be harder to establish a deep connection which we usually want to experience when we're dating. And to fully get to know a woman, she has to have your full attention in a way she'd feel secure and comfortable enough to be herself without the usual sweet mask she wears when dating.

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  • af0998
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    3 months ago
    I'm straightforward, easy, and a genius. What makes me different is that I don't like relationships I'd rather have friends with benefits. I don't think that makes me great but I don't mind myself.
    Physically: I'm half Japanese and athletic (but all my weight goes to my breasts).

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    3 months ago
    On a good day (haha) I am hard working, motivated, creative, loving, compassionate...omg these may be true but I'm boring myself... let's see, I like good hip hop and I hit a bong like a champ, I'm also good at sex. :D

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  • selfishstars
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    3 months ago
    "What do you do on a date to separate yourself from other women."

    When I go on a date, I'm not really thinking about how to "separate myself from other women". I go to have a good time with someone and get to know each other and see if we click. It's about him and me, not a competition between me and all the other women he's gone on dates with.

    "And since men are the ones who approach and do all the work it takes to get women I can't honestly think of ONE thing women do during the dating process to get me to like them.
    Other than dressing up, sitting there, smiling and being entertained by me."

    I've asked out most of the guys I've gone on dates with. I dress up and smile, but I don't expect the guy to do all the entertaining. I'm worrying about/trying to entertain him just as much as he is presumably trying to entertain me. It doesn't make sense to me to just "sit there and be entertained". Why would someone want to continue to date or possibly have a relationship with someone who they don't have fun with? That doesn't really make sense to me. Usually the fun and conversation is a two-way street, although I have been on dates with guys who were quite shy and I was the one leading the conversation, making suggestions on what we should do, etc. Usually it's mutual though.

    I don't think I'm "so great". I just try to have a good time and put my best foot forward.

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  • toulouse
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    3 months ago
    @And since men are the ones who approach and do all the work it takes to get women ______________Not in reality.

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  • Kate545
    843  
    3 months ago
    Hmm...random, witty, quiet, kind..."think outside the box"

    When I was in HS I was very big (200+) so I was picked on a lot and pushed into the loner group. I used that to my advantage, I was forced to make my own path in life and think for myself (I had one best friend.) It taught me to be independent and live life...my way (since I was pretty much alone and kept away from everyone for fear of being picked on)

    Example I started to lose weight, worked really hard at school while others were out drinking/partying, volunteered a lot and became addicated to diablo.

    Weridest fact: I have D2 and all my characters are named after jimi hendrix songs...

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  • InsidiousBlue
    1123  
    3 months ago
    Hmm. Women starve themselves and spend countless hours shaving their natural body hair and painting their faces just so men won't be MEAN to them. But I guess that doesn't count for anything. Because now you need a show, too. What do YOU contribute? Aside from your outrageously entertaining personality?
    Don't hold your breath. Nobody's ever going to be worthy of basking in your glow.

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  • udolipixie
    24146  
    3 months ago
    Women: what makes YOU a good catch?
    Likely my youth, attractiveness, wealth, status, and personality.

    If you are so great, what makes you different?
    Whether I'm great is a tossup however I'm different as I'm generally seen as exceptionally attractive, I don't wear makeup, I'm not girlie or feminine like it seems most gals, I'm quite blunt with and have an extremely low threshold of compassion/empathy for guys unlike it seems most gals, I sew/knit/crochet my own wardrobe, I grow and cook/bake my own food, I'm especially charismatic and can easily manipulate others, and I have a variety of artistic hobbies and activities like painting, drawing, and sculpting.

    "I can't honestly think of ONE thing women do during the dating process to get me to like them."
    Seems to speak more about your standards than gals in general.

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    Anonymous User
    3 months ago
    I'm the freaking sh*t... First off when I dress up I look prettier than 98% of women (that's being honest) I've never been on a date where I wasn't asked out for at least one more date. I smile a lot and have a great smile, I'm funny and witty so I would keep you engaged and on your toes... I'm also adorably sweet but I have sexy big eyes.. I have a cute small frame with a botton nose and long healthy hair and I get slightly nervous but somehow it looks adorable and refreshing.. That a really pretty girl like me would get nervous over a guy like you... You'de love me.. But sorry can't have me! lol

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    • Answerer
      3 months ago
      awe thanks buddy! One's you meet a girl who isn't stale bread you and she will be very happy too! :)
    • Question Asker
      3 months ago
      thats awesome!
      There are too many women that try and be dudes and butch it up.
      Its like I like to hang out with you but I'm not attracted to that!
      You are just what most of me and my friends like.

      You are going to make some man very happy.
    • Answerer
      3 months ago
      I'm also super corky.. Like I shamelessly love onsie PJ's lol and I use to be an artist so I am like a girlie girl who's fun creative and silly... Not at all like the typical women in my area.. I'm also the type of girl that if you were sick I would surprise you by dropping off a care package with your doorman (chicken soup, oj and something funny with a note) I'm not afraid to show a guy that I care threw action but I don't throw words around..
    • Question Asker
      3 months ago
      This made me laugh.
      I can tell you would be fun.
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    Anonymous User
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    Anonymous User
    3 months ago
    Maybe you like men?

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    • Question Asker
      3 months ago
      So the best answer woman I gave is a man?
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    Anonymous User
    3 months ago
    I've been dumped by three guys over the course of a year and half, so my confidence has kind of tanked. But, I think that I'm really nice person and maybe a little goofy/awkward.

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    • Answerer
      3 months ago
      Honestly, the past two guys both said really nice things to me they said that they thought I was beautiful, and sweet and that I deserved better. I think I just date weirdos.
    • Question Asker
      3 months ago
      did they tell you why it didn't work out?
      I always try and leave women better than I found them. Help them so that they can become a better person for knowing me. its doing a disservice not only to her but to the next people she dates.
  • harveykinkle
    4619  
    3 months ago
    The fact that I don't go on dates just because I'm asked...

    If I'm on a date with you, I want to be with YOU and not on a date.

    Maybe try that and it will be less boring.

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    • Question Asker
      3 months ago
      "f I'm on a date with you, I want to be with YOU and not on a date."
      i like that.
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    Anonymous User
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    Anonymous User
    3 months ago
    On the first date it's near impossible to get to know someone for who they truly are. People get nervous and tongue tied and aren't sure what to say from the anxiety. It's pretty harsh to drew negative conclusions about someone based on one meeting.

    For someone to stand out, you need to take the time and make the effort to really get to know her. I'm lots of things and there are tons of great qualities about me but you will never know them unless you give me time to show them to you

    I have a kind heart, I won't say no to helping someone out if I'm in a position to do so. I love laughing and telling stories. I volunteer. I'm affectionate. I'm sweet. I like and have lots of hobbies and interests. I'm an interesting person with an interesting story. Get to know me

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    • Question Asker
      3 months ago
      People get nervous and tongue tied and aren't sure what to say from the anxiety.
      i know, I'm like that too sometimes, but lots of times its hard to tell if a girl really likes you or she's just being standoffish, and its hard and frustrating to have a conversation with them when they don't know what to say, and I feel like I'm the only one doing the talking. You know what I mean?
  • snowangle
    12392  
    3 months ago
    That's interesting... because I often plan dates with guys, and when I do, we do awesome fun things like playing Wii at my house or Lazer Tag. It's the opposite of boring! Dating shouldn't be a job interview haha.

    What do I do differently than other women? I do the "me" thing. I be myself. Because I AM different. :) Guys rarely get bored with me. It's hard to get bored with someone who acts like a goofball and isn't afraid to embarrass herself.

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    • Question Asker
      3 months ago
      i gave you best answer but I found one that was better.
      sorry bout that.
  • andizta
    2046  
    3 months ago
    I'm open, quirky, no misrepresentations about who I am, playful, adventuresome, and have many interests...so on the first date with my husband we clicked because we both like to sail. We also talked about other shared interests, and now have added more to our list. I also fully appreciate men for who they are and embrace that.
    For the record we're still playing and having fun!
    If you find someone with shared interests, the date may not be as boring. Hang in there and good luck!

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  • celestialdaeva
    1685  
    3 months ago
    Umm, I bet your dates are repetitive and boring because you are repetitive and boring. It takes 2 to tango. Why in the world are you dating 3 different women every week? Don't you have a life? Are you that desperate for female attention?

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    • Question Asker
      3 months ago
      "as examples of how *I* am the problem - I'm the only one here who did that. Uh oh. The one you hate is the one who wasn't boring and repetitive.
      Actually the irony is quite funny considering I might be drawn to bitchy women. AKA you.
      Which means the problem is both my picker, and the women being boring.
      But only an inconsiderate fool would only blame the woman being abused instead of her abusers.

    • Question Asker
      3 months ago
      "There are some people who grew up feeling that they weren't worthy of nice
      treatment by others (from abusive parents, usually, although other adults
      in our lives can do it to us while we're still too young to know better
      than to believe the adults in our lives). These are the people who are
      "attracted" to abusers, because abuse fits in with what they feel they
      "deserve"."
      BTW, all of these reasons are irrelevant tot he point of statistical probablity, which I already proved you wrong on.

    • Question Asker
      3 months ago
      Wrong. you said this: "Statistically, that is very improbable. " And my point is that statically people can be attracted to the wrong kind of people. The reason "why" it happens is irrelvent to the "odds" which was your point.
      btw I'm a psychologist so I think I might know a little bit about what I'm talking about.
      I knew this girl who dated nothing but abusive men and we actually put her in a room full of men and she actually pointed out the one man she was attracted to and that was the abuser.
    • Answerer
      3 months ago
      The challenge was for you to research HOW and WHY domestic violence happens. Not how often it happens. You either completely fail at reading comprehension or were, once again, talking around my point.

      For real this time though. I'm done. Night night.
    • Answerer
      3 months ago
      LOL. Just want to point out for the irony of it that you were complaining about women being boring and pretty much being unable to engage you in conversation... and of all the women you are comparing me to as examples of how *I* am the problem - I'm the only one here who did that. Uh oh. The one you hate is the one who wasn't boring and repetitive. That's gotta be a tough pill to swallow. Not that you'll swallow it. I mean it's a metaphor for admitting to being wrong. LOL. Not likely.
    • Question Asker
      3 months ago
      "81% of women stalked by a current or former intimate partner are also physically assaulted by that partner; 31% are also sexually assaulted by that partner.13"
      Yeah I'm stupid.
      :)
    • Question Asker
      3 months ago
      An estimated 1.3 million women are victims of physical assault by an intimate partner each year.2 85% of domestic violence victims are women"
      Ahem.
    • Question Asker
      3 months ago
      Eveyone else on here has answered my question, except you.
      Perhaps YOU are the problem.
    • Answerer
      3 months ago
      There's nothing statistically improbable about women being attracted to men who beat her up at all. OMG you are such a freakin idiot. You have NO idea what you are talking about. Do some f***ing research on domestic violence before you pretend to know anything about how or why it happens. Holy sh*t. Just shut up already. You've already proven your immense ignorance.

      I'm done here. There's no use arguing with an idiot.
    • Question Asker
      3 months ago
      "You seem to think you are doing everything right, "
      I am beginning to think this is more about you than me. because you did not even answer my original question.
      I honestly think you are mad because you couldn't think of anything you bring to the table for men on a date either.
      Otherwise you would have said something. Everyone else on here has.
    • Question Asker
      3 months ago
      just like its statistically improbable for a woman to be attracted to men who beat her, and yet women do it all the time.

      I am dating shy women who don't talk very much. At least so far.



    • Answerer
      3 months ago
      Are you and I not on the same wavelength here? You are talking around my point. You see that? I make a point, you talk about everything EXCEPT my point. My point: YOU LACK INSIGHT AND PERSONAL RESPONSIBILITY.
    • Question Asker
      3 months ago
      Also I don't see what's so offensive about not finding Mrs right for a year.

    • Answerer
      3 months ago
      The point still stands. The only common denominator in all 24 of your dates, then, is you. What frustrates me about you is that you refuse to look at what YOU are bringing to the table to create the problem. You seem to think you are doing everything right, and the problem is all 24 of those women. Statistically, that is very improbable. This is not a trait typical of men in general. So saying I hate men is, again, you blaming something else and refusing to look at yourself.
    • Question Asker
      3 months ago
      1. so what.
      2. yeah, so what.
      3. you assume that I've been doing this for a year. I never said I was.
      Ive been doing this for 2 months.

    • Answerer
      3 months ago
      1. I never claimed you did anything to me specifically.
      2. I "assume" you are male because GAG says you are.
      3. In addition to the fact that you're male, from your question I was also able to learn that you go out with about 156 different women per year and that you blame them for lack of any spark.
      4. 156 women is a lot to be collectively blaming while claiming not to be blaming women in general.

      The only common denominator in all 156 of those dates is you. Yet you blame them.
    • Question Asker
      3 months ago
      I did nothing to you, and you don't know me, all you assume is that I'm a male.
      Its pretty easy to draw the conclusion that you must therefore hate men.
      And I'm not blaming all women I'm blaming the ones I'm dating and dating in general.

    • Answerer
      3 months ago
      LOL. You take my animosity toward you as a sign of how I feel about men in general? You couldn't be more wrong. I don't hate men at all. Most are great guys.

      What I hate is people who push blame off on others and refuse to accept responsibility for their own actions. But nice try, though.
    • Question Asker
      3 months ago
      Im already getting laid. You sound like you hate men and you're bitter.
      Some of the women I date are doing the same thing, and I am fine with it.

      What did a man do to you that made you hate them so much?

    • Answerer
      3 months ago
      Typo: You aren't* dating multiple women in hopes of finding Ms. Right.
    • Answerer
      3 months ago
      Dude. Stop justifying what you're doing. You are dating multiple women in hopes of finding Ms. Right. You are dating multiple women in hopes of getting laid.

      Repeat after me: "I am selfish, narcissistic, and have no respect for women as individuals."
    • Question Asker
      3 months ago
      Its actually more efficient to date multiple people to find the right one then try and date one girl at a time and make it work.
      This may not be the way you do things, but the way I do it, isn't "wrong."

    • Answerer
      3 months ago
      So then pick one and have sex with her every day. It doesn't even have to be a "girlfriend". You don't even have to actually like her. Plenty of women are looking for a stable f*** buddy, too. Stop pretending to date and pretending to be interested in who people actually are if you just want to get laid. Yeah, the problem here is definitely you. Not women.
    • Question Asker
      3 months ago
      I would also add, that I prefer women who are nice.

    • Question Asker
      3 months ago
      I would say I'm more addicted to the sex I'm having with them.
    • 3 months ago
      this pretty much answers your question. Couldn't have said it better myself
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    3 months ago
    i don't use make ups,dont do the fake laughs & moves,am intelligent & a guy could talk about almost everything with me

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    3 months ago
    I just be myself.I know I won't click with every guy but I'm right for the ones who are compatible with me.I don't try too hard to impress a guy, I'm not a contestant on the bachelor

    I guess what guys like about me personally is that I'm playful, sweet, like to make jokes and like doing things that are daring and exciting

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